eshda3wa

January 28, 2009

Life, Resposibility, and What Not




I just hung up the fone after an hour long conversation with Fig.

She thinks she might be pregnant yet again and she cant stop crying.

Her baby is only four months old.

She kept telling me about how she feels so old. So... madre.

I called to tell her what was going on with my paper work and what not, and she said if shes pregnant again god only knows when she'll start working.

Which is a total shame cz figi is the smartest out of all of us who graduated together. She had the highest grades.

The responisbilty eshda3wa the responsibility is what she kept saying.

I sat there listening to her and pretending to be sympathetic.. Pretending being the key word.

You get married and you have a kid. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to tell you your life will change.

You take birth control pills, and then forget to take them, chances are your going to end up pregnant.

It is as clear as im putting it isnt it?

i dunno .. now i feel bad

I think im gona go over to her place with cup cakes and ice cream and let her cry all she wants while i play with 3abood.
posted by eshda3wa at 12:00 AM

25 Comments:

ee wa3alayah i think all she needs right noe is someone to listen to her et6alli3 illy eb galbha..

January 28, 2009 at 12:22 AM  

JE
yeah definitely

January 28, 2009 at 12:27 AM  

I had a friend who was in a similar situation as fig...

She took like, 10 years to graduate. She married really young, but dodged getting pregnant for years. By the time she was in her final year she decided it was about time to start a family. By the time she gave birth she had barely graduated and was looking for a job. As soon as humanely possible after child birth, she was pregnant again and, like fig, started freaking out about it and how her baby was still, well, a new born baby who couldnt still lift his head up o waq o weeq...

Frankly?

I don't buy the whole "i got pregnant but didnt really plan on it"

In this day and age? It is NOT HARD AT ALL to avoid getting pregnant. Unless you really took all your precautions but it happened anyways... so if woman gets pregnant when her heart is not in it, it is no one's fault but hers sara7a... unless she really wants to get pregnant in her subconcsiouseness mind and doesnt have the heart to admit it...

So do not feel bad dear. Go over with cake and comfort her, but the mess? She did y3ni land her self in it and she is no rookie! So its time to face the responsibility and get over it!

January 28, 2009 at 12:32 AM  

allah y3eenha wallah!! enzain so2al ehya al7iin 9j pregnant wla she thinks enha pregnant?

hathii el salfaa thakartntnii eb mom when she got pregnant eb o5oii.. nafs el 7alaa.. a9lan i freaked out!! shnu omii ma tabii o5oii!! (waqt'ha kan 3oumrii 13 years).. bs now i can understand why.. the responsibility!

January 28, 2009 at 12:35 AM  

Nope, its not

January 28, 2009 at 12:39 AM  

danderma
thats what i said
ya3ni she doesnt take her pills oo ma tabe she gets pregnant shloon ballah
which only made her cry harder

smarties
i cant even begin to imagine the amount of responsibility

Hasan B
how is it not?

January 28, 2009 at 12:51 AM  

Abbaaaaiiiiiiihhhhhhhhhhh =@ =@
That story pissed me offff !! GOD I hate it when girls do that! Estaghfer alla 9ij enna ketbat allah bs el bani ada emkhayar mo emsayarr !! They make the HUGEST mistake o ekharbun 3ala 3omerhum then yetbachbechon o yet7al6emoun...


Alla ehadahum bs =\..

January 28, 2009 at 2:56 AM  

yeah, its what i say in my head everytime one of the girls complains about an "oops im pregnant again" incident..


it is a huge responsibility, and juggling it with work and a husband is kinda major.



yalla inshalla everything works well for ur friend! x

January 28, 2009 at 3:44 AM  

Opps what you said is true about the birth control pills =) Yup buy something to comfort her but she has to be the one who clean up the mess. Now your post made me felt terrified about having babies while the life is unstable.

January 28, 2009 at 6:02 AM  

well, honestly when she has baby she'll see how much it worth it

January 28, 2009 at 6:11 AM  

Oh sweetie, you're such a good friend!!

And Fig, I don't blame her at all!! She is already having a ahrd time with 3abood.

January 28, 2009 at 7:20 AM  

madre dnt feel bad , madre i share your thoughts, but she doesnt need that right now, she just needs u to listen and be there i guess

January 28, 2009 at 7:37 AM  

ahhhhh, you're were very clear :P i totally agree with you, marriage is a commitment and responsibility comes with it.

January 28, 2009 at 10:31 AM  

Maskeena, I feel her pain although Im still not a mother bsss sej alah ekoon eb 3oonha :( now now eshda3wa being pregnant is already getting bigger,do u really think cupcakes is a good idea ?;P

January 28, 2009 at 12:21 PM  

Wee maskeena :/

January 28, 2009 at 12:54 PM  

thats kinda sad;\, allah e3enha , the thought of being engaged is stressful let alone having kids wara ba3ath;\!!

January 28, 2009 at 1:41 PM  

similar situations are hard to fathom, she's just worried and her worries will fade away with time.

January 28, 2009 at 3:43 PM  

yeap kids change everything ..
bss this is a new life for her .. let her see it as a new adventure that would bring about the best days of her life ..
it really amazes me how most moms give up their careers that they've been working for their whole lives for their kids ..

January 28, 2009 at 6:23 PM  

I seriously don't get it!

bas I totally agree with you: If you don't want kids, stay on your birth control pills. If you want more, then expect the responsibilities that come along with it. Simple as that!

My friend did the same thing.. she got pregnant on her honeymoon o now mit7asfa cuz 3ala golatha mas'ooliya o while us (her friends) are living our lives, she's stuck at home being a mom.

nothings wrong with that bas babies are a big responsibility fa they should really consider having one when they're ready!

o no matter how much tin9i7eenhom, ya7giroon wisawoon il 3ax witi7al6imon!

January 28, 2009 at 8:12 PM  

miskeeeena ;\ bas layokalif allah nfsan ela ws3ha.. etha allah thought enha mo gadra 3ala hal responsibility chan ma ebyarzeg'ha :)

remind her of that ;*

January 28, 2009 at 11:46 PM  

yeah .. her baby is too young

bs ele yeji men allah 7yah allah !

January 29, 2009 at 1:06 AM  

the only advice i can give is never to reject a child before its birth even if he/she was a mistake... she doesn't really want to tell that child when he/she grows up that he/she was a mistake and she actually did not want him/her to live! that could seriously affect children....

January 29, 2009 at 5:17 AM  

I would agree with you about the birth control pills but its hard to judge when you haven't been in that situation and its a lot to deal with..

February 8, 2009 at 6:55 AM  

eb 9ara7a ma 3endaha salfa ;\

ya3ni come ooooon .. who gets pregnant bel ghala6 halayam !! ;\

February 8, 2009 at 9:57 PM  

"You get married and you have a kid. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to tell you your life will change."

You have no idea. No one has any idea until it happens to you. You think you want to be married, and have babies, and the getting married part is fun, and then the babies start coming and it is a lot of WORK! There is sleep deprivation, and all that nursing and changing and laundry, and up in the middle of the night and you remember when you didn't have babies and it seems so long ago and your tiny little figure is gone, the baby needs you so much, your husband needs you, your family needs you, and you just feel so overwhelmed.

Your friend needs a hug! And a good friend who can just listen and maybe take her and her baby out for coffee somewhere and just help her feel a little like a fun person again.

February 12, 2009 at 8:26 PM  

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