eshda3wa

May 23, 2008

Public Display Of Affection


I'm not into public displays of affection. I think people should express their love behind closed doors. No need for everyone else to see.

I heard talks about closing down messila beach because of all the homosexual activity going on.

I'm not going to argue the religious part.

Its not for me, but I don't care who other people choose to love in the privacy of their own home.

God will be the judge of all of us, so ill leave it up to him.

I'm glad they are closing it down. Not because of the homosexual activity, but because of the activity period!

I went to the messila village once, and took my little cousins with me. They saw live performances of what should have been rated R .

Once at the palms, my friends and I were lounging by the pool where a few women were tanning topless, then one of them gets in the pool and starts making out with her husband or boyfriend or whatever. What the hell!

There should be a line drawn somewhere.

I don't think its pent up sexual frustrations that decided to erupt all of a sudden on the beach.

If everyone just carried their business privately we really wouldnt be having talks of shutting anything down.

And no its not KAIFHUM and its not people can do whatever they want. When your in public you should respect the fact that your in public.

I don't care If its in Kuwait or Amsterdam. When your in a place that has children you really should behave yourself.

What you do behind closed doors is your business, what you do in public is everyone elses business! !



*still not done with exams :(
posted by eshda3wa at 12:00 AM

74 Comments:

لا اله الا الله

كلام وواقع خطير


للاسف

مافي احترام للناس من حولهم

المسيلة ليس المكان الوحيد حسب توقعي


واذا قلنا حرية فالحرية ما تتعدى قلة الادب
وبوجود اطفال


الشيء الثاني المرادف لصلب الموضوع هو اللبس الفاضح

لا تقولون حرية
ونلبس الي نبيه

بعد هناك حدود

نحترم غالبية المجتمع

مو معقول امشي بنص ملابس واقول كيفي انا حرة

مو معقول امشي بشكل رجل
واتمييع واقول حر انا كيفي

مو المنظر مو حضاري

والغرب اذا صار فيه هذي الاشياء ترا مو بالعلن مثل الوضع الدارج بدولنا


والله يا عزيزتي
الوضع مضحك مبكي

مضحك لان التقليد اعمى والمنطر يضحك
ومبكي لان عيالنا مضطرين يشوفون هالاشياء


السؤال
كيف يكون هناك حدود حمراء لا يتعداها هؤلاء الناس
؟؟؟

ما هو الحل

هل القانون؟؟

May 23, 2008 at 2:13 AM  

i totally agree with you, it's awkward and unnecessary

May 23, 2008 at 2:43 AM  

i couldn't agree more , i stopped goin' to those places for the reason u mentioned * get a room ppl*

mwafega eb ur examz ;)

May 23, 2008 at 2:57 AM  

you got that right! there should be a limit to how much "affection" you can display publicly. A hug and a kiss is no big deal, but to go the extent where you're slobbering over each other or groping one another inappropriately is really unacceptable.

May 23, 2008 at 5:38 AM  

sa7 lsanich

May 23, 2008 at 5:46 AM  

public display of affection is pathetic, i hate it no matter where i see it. in paris, london, or anywhere else. But i never expected it to be going on in kuwait! shd3wa :O someone needs to wake these people up and remind them where they are and to respect the place & people around them.

May 23, 2008 at 5:46 AM  

I totally agree with you!

May 23, 2008 at 7:16 AM  

I agree with you to a certain degree, but I why do you bother yourself by paying attention to what the others are doing. Just ignore them and live your life pacefully enshalah they started walking sel6 mol6..

May 23, 2008 at 9:04 AM  

I completely agree. I'm against PDA as well.

May 23, 2008 at 9:52 AM  

manalq8
ur totally right. The thing is you start talking about things like that and people jump out at you talking about limiting them and stomping on their right to express themselves. well i say this, what about my right? what about the rights of the children that dont need to see such manather?

moshkila laman fee nass ma 3ndaha laa 7aya wala mesta7a!

hamode
it is!

zabo0o6a
thankx babe!

ren_crow
Its really hard getting that message across!!

the masquerader
sa7 badank

nyxxie
yeah but who?
its hard teaching growm people manners there mama didnt teach them

big pearls
glad u do!

bloboz
when they are at it right infront of me, where they expose me to it, and worse yet CHILDREN, then laa ly shgl oo ne9.
You think if you were in amseterdam, london, the states, then all is good and fine?
No, places designate how much skin you can show, you cant walk into a mall topless, hell you cant even go topless on any beach.
You get arrested. there are hotels that stop you at the door and tell you what your wearing is inappropriate. Schools send students home if their attire is too much.
There are very strict laws on what you can expose children or anyone else to in public.
there are actually laws 3ala public displays of affection!
So no where in the world is kaifhum. Especially not in a conservative society like kuwait!

May 23, 2008 at 9:53 AM  

jasim
glad u do!

May 23, 2008 at 9:55 AM  

Oh I so totally agree.. I have never been to Masila, just once there was some exhibition and that's all.. but are you SERIOUS!! Topless and making out?!! In KUWAIT!

Disgusting!

Weee3!

May 23, 2008 at 10:41 AM  

i cant STAND messila beach ive been there once and im never going back there again!! some people are just so uncivilized!!

May 23, 2008 at 11:16 AM  

Messilah is actually open now..!!! All that bull about them closing is it down... and they didn't...

And I totally agree especially in front of kids... !!

May 23, 2008 at 11:24 AM  

I'm not a big fan of PDA either;\

May 23, 2008 at 11:42 AM  

I dont mind if they're holding hands, hugging or kissing in public but if its making out or what you described then yeah it's wrong.

I dont believe in homosexuality. Call me ignorant, traditional or backward I dont care. I can't stand them.

May 23, 2008 at 12:39 PM  

waaiilaiinnn....

nas their getting their affection publicly wana 7ata bil zawya bil sirdab im not getting anything;p

garada:p

May 23, 2008 at 1:01 PM  

Those who put on public displays, you'd be surprised to know, are the most insecure about their relationships. They need an audience to confirm to themselves that they actually are a couple... without the public... they know they are nothing.

Great post, great point.

May 23, 2008 at 1:21 PM  

shosho
ud be blown away at wat happens rite here IN KUWAIT

l*
uncivilized and totally inappropriate!

hamitaf
i heard its open, inshallah elawadem ytsani3on bs

amethyst
good!

sushi
i dont believe in it either, but what ppl do behind closed doors is between them and got, and what they do in front of me then its between them, god, and me!

um-mit3ib
join the club

disturbed stranger
actually U make a great point!

May 23, 2008 at 1:57 PM  

I just don't like the fact that these people impose themselves, and places get SHUT DOWN because of them! I used to go there early am belsummer, makoo a77ad. I enjoyed it ! :(

May 23, 2008 at 1:58 PM  

next time it happens go tell them to stop it

May 23, 2008 at 2:17 PM  

i've heard everyone talking about what happens in "masilla" its rather disgusting than " showing emotions "

May 23, 2008 at 5:16 PM  

Shite I should more time in palms!! Missing a lot of ongoing activity!

May 23, 2008 at 5:43 PM  

Repulsive. That, and pathetic.

There's a tad similar resort in the Kingdom. A surprise of the worst kind.

May 23, 2008 at 7:26 PM  

Holding hands-ok
Putting you arm around somebody-ok
A peck on the cheek-ok...

but straight out slobbering all over one another is not acceptable!!!! Neither is sitting on someones lap and wallowing all over em!!! I mean come on- who wants to see it!!??

And topless in Kuwait?? I wud never want my kids to see someone like that and think its ok!!

All I can say to people out there who over do the PDA's- is HAVE SOME RESPECT- FOR YOURSELF, THE ONE YOUR WITH AND THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU!

May 23, 2008 at 8:03 PM  

i love myself

May 23, 2008 at 10:44 PM  

I agree with your point about privacy. People are being selfish nowadays in terms of persuing their need to get attention and make a statement and while doing that making people uncomfortable. Like they carry a: "Live with it or Die with it" sign.

My God! When did privacy become public?

May 24, 2008 at 6:32 AM  

Missela beach hotel thingy whatever should be closed or renovated sara7a! That place hmmm well, I cant even remember the last time I have been there (gabl el ghazo maybe? LOL)

I once saw a lady getting her bag from the floor and while doing so she was rubbing her breast against the man she was having dinner with in a restaurant that is in a mall full of people, youth, family, kids....... etc! It was disgusting!!!! my jaws dropped!

May 24, 2008 at 10:14 AM  

Totally agree. its discusting

May 24, 2008 at 10:38 AM  

i see where you're coming from about people being so out there...i went to the cinema once, and there was a couple next to me (im thinking they didnt even hit 20) and they just wouldnt stop being all over each other throughout the movie. seriously annoying, cz some of us were here to watch u know??
anywayz, about messila though, even though i only went there once, it would suck if they closed it down (not that i dont completely agree with it, ive seen things i didnt think were possible eb hal one time), but my point is, its the only beach that has a day for girls :(

May 24, 2008 at 11:13 AM  

sa7 elsanich

May 24, 2008 at 12:29 PM  

"What you do behind closed doors is your business, what you do in public is everyone elses business! !"

Well said!!

May 24, 2008 at 12:38 PM  

vixen
its the only place for women to go oo hal sowalif is gna ruin it for all of us!!

tat
tried that when someone almost laded on my lap

navy girl
yes its very disturbing

hasan.b
yeah lounge by the pool

manu
ppl have no shame anymore
oh n congrats on the win!

nonowa
nonooowaaaaaa!!
so good to see u around babe!
u have been missed!
and yeah i agree
HAVE SOME RESPECT PPL

nq
i love u more than u love urself :*

ruby
exactly SELFISH!

ansam
9ij awadem ma 3ndhum laa 7aya wala mesta7a!

common sense
it is!

dandoon
i know its sad that those ppl that have no shame ykharboon 3ala everyone else!

bebe
sa7 babadnich

N.
thank u!

May 24, 2008 at 12:53 PM  

I agree with you bas now people here in this country need to solve this. The people in our country dont respect the public, what do you think the foreigners will do?
The same and/or maybe worse.

May 24, 2008 at 1:22 PM  

9A7 LSANIK!!!

LUV YOUR POST (Y)

May 24, 2008 at 1:41 PM  

U R absolutely right !

May 24, 2008 at 2:53 PM  

jeleeleen il 7aya!! wei3 wei3 wen ga3deen?!!
these kinda people are the reason of segregation and shit!!!

May 24, 2008 at 8:42 PM  

Agreeeeed!! I'm with you sometimes its just pure disgusting to see people nude or having sex in public ..etc!

May 25, 2008 at 8:45 AM  

couldnt say it better !

May 25, 2008 at 11:32 AM  

min jed mafe e7teram lil 3amah :S

<3 ur post.

May 25, 2008 at 2:09 PM  

i absolutely agree 100000%. i had a conv with chirp a while ago about this. sadly she does not agree. im making her read this entry!

May 25, 2008 at 2:20 PM  

G
then we should lead by example

oreomadness
sa7 badanich
thankx babe!

jo0o
thankx

oranjina fadrida
true, they abuse the freedom given to them, and we all have to pay the price for it!

linus
it is!!

dreamzy
thankx

gloomy
:**

mrm
glad u agree!
ee let her, id love to see the other side of this argument!

May 25, 2008 at 3:08 PM  

topless?! seriously?! haw wain ga3deen!

May 25, 2008 at 3:56 PM  

dandoon
ee takhaylay!

May 25, 2008 at 4:22 PM  

There should be a certain level of discretion for all these things, I never liked when people are making out right next to me in the movie theater when I'm watching a movie in the states, I would be very annoyed. The same thing should apply here.

But bringing the religious fanatics into it opens up doors for them to want to shutdown everything. Its just too much when they jump in, and its a difficult line to balance!

May 25, 2008 at 5:54 PM  

Mrm its not that i don't agree I said that we can't BAN everything because BANNING ma ra7 ifeed, you have to get to the root of the problem and fix it from there cuz if u take of one layer at a time that will just fix it for right now (talking about messila water place).
about PDA i think some pp should get a room, although I have not seen much PDA in kuwait .. at least i dont think so ...
u know what i've been hearing a lot of stories about in q8 ... well yeah i dont think I should write it here ;p

May 26, 2008 at 12:34 AM  

HERE HERE!!!! a;;;ah ya36eech il 3afya 6ala3tay ili bgalbee!!! oo ili a5yas min kil hal amakin ro7ow shofow HILTON oo KEMPINSKI ana ma gimt aroo7 hnak min kithr il balawee ili feeha. tadroon ina ana shayfa wa7da tamshee oo bs labsa shirt oo ili ta7ta thong fa her ass kilha mbayna!! wil moshkila mo mashdoooda wai3!!

Good luck on the exams babe :**

May 26, 2008 at 12:56 AM  

I have a teenie weenie disagreement,

I won't mind a couple hugging, holding hands, or staring into eachother's eyes, it's cute to be all cuddly, it's just that we're not used to it here, or other women are jealous.


Romance, doesn't have to be behind all doors at all times. But whatever is too much, I would have to agree that it's not to be displayed infront of who ever, kids, adults.

Bss don't hate the cuddles and hugs ;p

No french kissing in public ofcourse.

May 26, 2008 at 2:55 AM  

I remember going into a conversation about this same subject with a friend. The gym i went to had a few of those girls and i was annoyed since a full blown fight had happened with 1 of the girls and the mother of a girl who went to the gym. My younger sisters were members at the gym too and i really did not want them subjected to such things. My friend called me of all ppl close minded!

I have no problems with what they do behind closed doors or in a grown up environment.
But when its in front of children, young easily influenced teens, or older ladies i draw a line. Young girls should not be accustomed to things like that happening, it should never be the norm! And shamefully that is whats happened.

But closing Messilah Beach is a drastic action, its not fair for everyone else. On the otherhand, there is practically no way to control them. Itha ahalhom mo gadren 3alaihom shlon ilidara hnak besawonlohom shay?!

May 26, 2008 at 3:19 AM  

Well naturally ya people shoud get a room. But I never saw PDA as that big of a deal. And although Messilah beech is a lesbo center It is one of the few activities open for people especially women. Close it down and a lot of people will have nothing to do in their spare time.

May 26, 2008 at 11:46 AM  

And best of luck w/ the exams

May 26, 2008 at 12:03 PM  

HEEEY
guess whos back :P
anyhoo first of all just wanna say that i think its gross when ppl kiss in public ir do wtever ya3ni rally are u ppl not that secure of ur relation that u have to show everyone '3a9b enk t7boon b3a'9 :S

May 27, 2008 at 10:12 AM  

marzouq
ppl abuse freedoms
and ppl abuse power
dilemma

Chirp
thats the thing, if ppl acted discreetly there will be no need for banning.
I think individuals should be kicked out of the water place. if u see two ppl making out. bye bye
bs dont punish everyone

eulalia
qelat adab walah!
thanks dear

tooth fairy
elmushkila ina nass may76oon limit, first its a cuddle, then there all over eachother.

DR
its NOT closed minded when you expect ppl to respect those around them and control their actions!
I agree its drastic, welnass ele ma 3ndhum 7aya law shinsawe, they still wont have 7aya!!

kaos
i am met7ajba, i love the idea of having a beach where i could relax and tan, but those ppl ruin it for ALL of us. I dont go anymore, and i cant take my little cousins fearing for what they might witness!
thanks

Bal8ees
ya5y intay wainich!
3mrich 6weeel
yesterday i was checking ur blog!!
welcom back babe!
u have been missed :**

May 27, 2008 at 1:22 PM  

I agree with you, but not a 100%, Im ok if ((husband & wife))) hold hands, hug..maybe kiss on the cheek..bas

Topless o madry sheno o 5rabee6, BiG NO..etha hatha al7een, what is gonna happend when my kids y9eeroon teenagers!!?? nude failicha, or strip beach cobber!!?? @@

Allah yaster 3ala elkuwait bas =/

May 27, 2008 at 1:36 PM  

I think there's a wide degree of public affection and we shouldn't just ban all of them.

For example, when I am in the states, I think it's adorable when two lovers hugging each other goodbye and the girl gives the guy a settled (and care I say, tasteful) goodbye kiss. When I see that, I can feel the warmth of their sincere love. However, if those two where slurping all over, then that's when it becomes ugly and disgusting.

In the end, if you want to preform public display of affection, then do it nicely, not replicate a scene from a porn movie.

May 27, 2008 at 1:57 PM  

KM
9ij allah yaster 3alaina oo 3ala 3yalna

angelo
thay can hug and kiss at home, shilmushkila?
why that need to do it out in the open?

May 27, 2008 at 3:12 PM  

Ok Im speechless - such activities in an Islamic Country. It hurts to see such activities - people are definetly loosing their identity.

May 27, 2008 at 8:06 PM  

awwwwwwwwwww
ya 7biilk u still rmmber me *tearing up* i thought u might have 4got awwwwwwwwwww ya 7biilk :**

May 27, 2008 at 9:00 PM  

i dont mind a cute peck or something demure-ish.. but some people do take it overboard! get a room peeps :P

good luck with ur exams xx

May 27, 2008 at 10:21 PM  

zainoba
yes its heartbreaking!

bal8ees
ofcourse i still remember u babe!
wa7d ynsa a7baba :**

fastidious babe
exactly
thanks babe !

May 28, 2008 at 1:05 AM  

how about the police teaching them?

May 28, 2008 at 2:07 AM  

nyxxie
how?
beat them up
its not a solution

May 28, 2008 at 2:34 PM  

Good I havent been away so long or I would missed this post..

U know what??

I am hapy happy that they will do...
Ma7ad 3afes el dera except those ppl..and I cant not judge it without considering the relegion side...

bs honestly I was shocked abouet el Palms thingie... :O

le hal daraja mn el esfaf o el en7edar we9alna??? were they even kuwaities???

May 28, 2008 at 8:42 PM  

أمبيه الصراحة انصدمت أول مرة أدري اكو ناس تسوي جذي بالكويت
شفيهم هذولة؟
صج ناس لا حيا و لا مستحى
صج يوم قالوا ان لم تستحي فاصنع ما شئت
والله المفروض يسجنونه أي واحد يسوي جذي عشان يتأدب و يستحي على دمه و ما يعيدها مرة ثانية
فعلا ناس ما عندهم احترام و لا مراعاة لعادات و تقاليد المجتمع و الدين

May 29, 2008 at 6:30 AM  

Magoooooooooooooooooooooooood =D

May 29, 2008 at 9:57 PM  

Hi.. Closing elmaseela beach? WOW! eshda3wa, where did you hear about this? And do you know WHEN? Looks like they've had it!

May 30, 2008 at 12:15 PM  

desertroses
wala ma adre
the guy was lebanese i think
bs regardless
what the hell!

q8manal
elmshkila even law in7a6aw belsijin
hatha ma ra7 y3lmhum laa 7aya wala mesta7a!

auto
huh?

anon
i dont know wallah
talks have ben going on since forever
i doubt theyll do anything just yet though

May 30, 2008 at 12:22 PM  

Messila beach opened..what they should do ena put the RIGHT people in charge to keep a look out for those homo...bs ya3ni wen u think about they should close it down where else can women who dont PDA lol swim? without men???? in an open pool..its not fair really..

May 31, 2008 at 8:36 PM  

OMG are you serious?! Yeesh! Shu sayer bel 3alam - that is what bedrooms and the kitchen top are for!

June 2, 2008 at 8:58 AM  

anon
true
its a problem
you cant teach ppl self respect
either they have it or they dont.

kj
i know!

June 3, 2008 at 11:52 AM  

emm, thats just stupid.
public displays of affection are sometimes incredibly inappropriate but unless you can find a law stating this. then fine, i agree with you.
regardless of your homosexuals and tanning topless or even making out- thats their business and not yours. meaning, JUST LOOK THE OTHER WAY !!!

take your cousins to the pool next time.

January 21, 2009 at 5:39 AM  

Anon
it is against the law
you go to jail for it.
And regardless its common curtsy to respect urself and others when ur in public.
They can get a room and let my cousins play on the beach :)

January 21, 2009 at 6:20 PM  

PDA isn't against the law - you're wrong.
You're also completely ignoring that there are different TYPES of PDA.
Holding hands, a small kiss, hugging - these are all types of public affection which are more than appropriate.
People so often use the example that there are CHILDREN around and we should be protecting the CHILDREN. Ok, from what?
From a couple holding hands? From two people kissing? For doing things that are entirely natural and expressing feelings and emotions towards another human being in a healthy way?
The nerve!
So long as the actions aren't vulgar I don't see the issue with it and no one who has posted anything has made a convincing argument as to why it is wrong.

March 31, 2009 at 11:52 PM  

anon
where do you live?
here in kuwait its against the law
u get arrested for kissing ..
and whos to determine wat is appropriate what is not.
Spare the public and do ur business behind closed doors

April 1, 2009 at 12:05 AM  

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