eshda3wa

May 21, 2010

Stop Staring At Me You Arabs!




This is something that is increasingly bothering me.

People always complain about how when they are out people are always staring at them.

And how blissful it is to be in the west where no one looks twice at you.

Well here's the thing. The only reason you know people are staring at you, is because your staring right back.

Believe me when i tell you your nothing special. So i don't know why its only you that always captures the attention of the whole word.

GET OVER YOURSELF.

Waaay the kuwaities kela ykhezooon.

news flash, your kuwaiti too.

Your not better or more sophisticated than every single person out there.

Moo bas intaw ele et3arfoon elsana3 weltharaba oo baji elnass hailag.

If YOU stop staring at ppl then no one would be staring back.


Im so sick and tired of people putting kuwaities and arabs in general down.

This self hatred you have of your people only tells me one thing : your in serious need for therapy.


sa7 wela ana qal6ana?
posted by eshda3wa at 12:00 AM

36 Comments:

kalamech 3al el3al! o mo ghal6ana! we're all the same and as u said they wouldnt stare if we weren't staring :D

May 21, 2010 at 12:09 AM  

I totally agree with you,

7adhm nesaw inhm 3arab oo 7alhm 7al ily ga3deen iynazloon mn gadrhm,

il West 3indhm racisim towards other nationalities, bs i7na lil asaf we have that going on between our own people.

May 21, 2010 at 12:52 AM  

You are right!

May 21, 2010 at 1:33 AM  

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May 21, 2010 at 2:00 AM  

sa7ain ba3ad..

May 21, 2010 at 2:14 AM  

You have a point but you cant deny that they stare even if you dont notice them they make you notice them. By trying to talk to you, stalking you, failing at getting your number.

May 21, 2010 at 3:33 AM  

sorry luv, ur quite qal6ana, at least in the first half..

i can tell ppl are staring without staring back - peripheral vision? u see them in the corner of ur eye, or when ur simply looking around (not the same as gazing)

May 21, 2010 at 3:56 AM  

You are not completely ghal6ana, bas I gotta say there are some people who keep on staring at you because you look different from them. I mean when you go to a place where people are usually covered from head to toe and you're showing your face or not wearing hijab, they do keep staring at you, while you are not staring back -since that there's nothing to stare at-.
Thanks :)

May 21, 2010 at 2:32 PM  

u tell them girl!

May 21, 2010 at 4:21 PM  

swera
exactly

dont dwell
madre laish we love putting our own ppl down

HP
thanks

ba6alah
@@
what?

blare
thanks

L
thats te7erish
which happens everywhere
guys trying to pick up girls
its not exclusive to arabs

enigma
and does that happen every single time ur out
to the point where u cant wait to go to the west for a peaceful oblivious day?

Manayer A
people look at things that are different from them
that is normal.
that doesnt mean only arabs do it wel west angels
or that it happenes every single time ur out

nusy
im trying!

May 21, 2010 at 5:07 PM  

ouf ma7b hal shay especially if your mother is a foreigner and you're half kuwaiti trust me people all keep staring at you , as if saying oh god this is how kids get born and grown up with that look of the face to a kuwaiti father and a foreigner mother, ouf walla I hate that it's how I think when people stare at us !! shtaboon ;/ walla makes me feel hating me , fa'6yeen !

May 21, 2010 at 5:10 PM  

LOL! Seems people don't like their countries anymore and wanna belong to some other place.

It's pathetic! Be proud of who you are and show it off to the world

May 21, 2010 at 7:50 PM  

Well said..

May 21, 2010 at 8:02 PM  

AP
so ppl stare at u in awe and wonder everytime ur out in public?

KJ
exactly!

AMU
merci

May 21, 2010 at 8:22 PM  

I have to say...you're kinda right...and kinda wrong.

It's a fact that most (NOT ALL) arab guys are desperate...but not just arabs...walk down any street in any middle eastern country and you are bound to have some old guy perving on you..or any random dude following you until he gets bored and moves onto some other chick. This soo does not happen in the west.

and most arab (especially 5aliji) girls love the attention...but they pretend as if it annoys them.

and of coursee guys try to pick up girls anywhere in the world...but y do u think arabs are KNOWN for perving/starring/following girls? I'll let u figure that one out urself...

but come on!! when u go out with 5 tonnes of make up and a hugee camel hump, who wouldn't stare? (:

May 21, 2010 at 8:27 PM  

I live in the west and it happens and mostly between arabs
no1 else notices u ila them

May 21, 2010 at 10:35 PM  

Yeah but would explain why it never happened to people in Australia?
and please, note to it's annoyance, people do a lot of things, but considering that doesn't mean canceling it's annoyance.
thanks again.

May 21, 2010 at 11:48 PM  

koko
i hate this whole generalizing thing
its like saying blacks are KNOWN to be criminals.
asians CANT drive.
stereotyping of any kind isnt good.

as for ppl seeking attention. thats a different story.


*L
maybe because ur arab like them?

again im not talking about te7erish.
im talking about sitting in a coffee shop, or having ice cream or reading a book, and u think everyone around u is just staring at u. mothers, children, men, maids.

hence the UR NOT THAT SPECIAL.

and believe me when i tell u it does happen in the west.

May 21, 2010 at 11:53 PM  

manayer A
ofcourse not.
it is annoying
and it does happen.
im targeting my post at certain ppl that pertain it happens to them every single time any time of day and night
eshda3waaaaa !!

May 22, 2010 at 12:26 AM  

i kinda disagree .. im not self hating im simply acknowledging we unfortunately have a social problem!
our society in general not just guys love to stare! they check u out from head to toe women and men do that!

men check out figure and other stuff, while women check out hand bags and shoes! :p

its a fact that our society is fixated on looks/materials thats why they end up staring at these things. not because any of us is special just because they got used to being curious to knowing whats out there.

trust me its in the society,this doesnt happen in all countries .. ive been living in LA for now almost 2 years .. with a Hijab! ud expect ppl to stare right?! specially when here walking in ur bikini is fine! they dont!! lol u gotta love them.. they wouldnt care if ur wearing a truck on ur head they wouldnt stare because they respect ur space. and even if the occasional "staring" happens .. always ends up with a friendly nod or smile.. hatha al frg bain al sho3oob.

May 22, 2010 at 7:55 AM  

no3ik
hey girl :**
how have u been?
of course it happens!
but i dont think it happens to the point where u would feel uncomfortable and want to pack up and leave.
your arab. do you stare?
everyone that commented is probably going to answer NO.
so why wld u think ur different than the rest of kuwait.
i think most of it is psychological.
when ur in the west u think ppl dont stare so ur oblivious to it.
when ur here u expect it, so whenever u catch someones eye u think their staring.
when was the last time u were out oo intay ga3da welnass 7oolich wagfa etimagal feech?
puleeez!

May 22, 2010 at 9:47 AM  

LoL true.. you know when some people travel and are like "we want to go some place where there are no Arabs/kuwaitis?" well that pisses me off too because THEY are also Kuwaitis lol what makes them think they are an exception I don't know!

May 22, 2010 at 1:11 PM  

eshda3wa i wasn't trying to stereotype...but y do u think girls in arab countries can't walk out the house without having at least 1 guy try it on with them...whereas in the west no one would give u a second look?

im born and bred in london and never has a guy even once followed me 2 my car..let alone my house! but in kuwait there are guys who will follow u to ur house door, trying to give you there number..and western girls have it worse when they visit..

i do agree there is a psychological aspect to it, but the only reason we expect to be started at, is because we've experienced it 100 times before..that's what I meant when I say arabs guys are known for all this...I'm not trying to put them down...I absolutely love kuwaitis and I don't think it's there fault that today's youth have turned out the way they are..

May 22, 2010 at 2:24 PM  

kalamech 3adel 100 percent , 9a7 ilsanech
i agree with u totally

May 22, 2010 at 3:06 PM  

lol eshda3wa! missed u wallah
loved "etimagal"
i have to admit one thing though
i have noticed from my last visit that "men" in general have became more respectful of women.. less stalking less "ga6aat" im thinking they have discovered new means in approaching women that arent as offensive as they were before. so im happy for that.

bs women! they do stare .. also another example from my last visit and i know its just one example im not generalizing here just saying that it still happens, i bumped into someone and we were saying our hellos, it took us maybe 3 minutes! i swear im not kidding she looked me in the face or eye maybe once or twice! the rest of the time she was staring at my necklace!!! ili ana shakait b3mre 3bali feeni shay ghala6.. she couldnt take her eyes off of it .. finally because she knew me, before i leave she asked me where i got it from?.. so the point is .. women stare i think to check out what ur wearing.. they would ask u about it if they knew u but if not.. all they can do is check it out o ytmagalon :p i never said it was a bad thing, im just saying its there. i for one in the west tend to stare when i see something i like on somebody! lol i simply cant help it! :p

i dont mind staring as long as it is friendly and ends up with a smile.

sorry 3l grga!

May 22, 2010 at 6:30 PM  

I guess :P but lets say i take things positive, if they stare, it makes me feel like a super star :P

May 22, 2010 at 10:21 PM  

shosho
thank u!
ana ba3ad 7ade anqath minhum!

koko
akh 3ala todays youth..
dont even get me started on them.
i dont need just a post, i need a new blog all together !

justnoon
im glad u do :)

No3ik
el blog eblogich ya ba3ad 3mre!
u can egrig as much as u like whenever u like!!

that must have been some necklace!
ela u send me a pic! i gotta see it!

AP
as u should!!

May 22, 2010 at 10:53 PM  

Hi, eshda3wa

Gazing at me is really bothers me. It’s common feature in Arabian societies unfortunately. What you said is absolutely right. Dunno when Arabs will learn to keep others privacy!
Thanks anyway for your words I like the pic it cracked me up LOL.

May 23, 2010 at 12:39 AM  

100% 9a7

May 23, 2010 at 11:23 AM  

rationality
hehe
it cracked me up too

JE
glad u agree

May 23, 2010 at 12:26 PM  

lol b3d 3mre wala ehmch
3ad its back in kuwait inshala will do when im there ;)

May 23, 2010 at 3:03 PM  

I have to agree and disagree! I agree that self-hatred isnt the idea but in reality people in the Middle East stare a lot, seriously! I turn around a few times sometimes to find the same person looking! I have been to Eastern Europe and some people there stare a lot as well so its just something to do with the nature of the person!

Personally I don't care who's looking I still do what I want! lol

May 23, 2010 at 6:05 PM  

You are right, and some people think so highly of themselves.

May 23, 2010 at 9:06 PM  

No3ik
hehehe
ok

marzouq
sure someone does it
but like u said
it shouldnt stop anyone from doing what they want!

G
i know madre 3ala shino!

May 23, 2010 at 9:34 PM  

it kills me when ppl stare! its just too rude!

June 11, 2010 at 9:29 AM  

they stare because of several reasons, i can litrally write a complete post on what they stare at and why.. i rather not..

staring is rude. end of discussion. and seriously ppl still do that in q8? sha5bari.. its 2010.. when will it hit them?

June 14, 2010 at 6:33 AM  

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