eshda3wa
September 11, 2011
The Marriage Escapades
Being a group of single twenty - somethings in this part of the world, where being married is one of the ultimate status symbols, well you accumulate a lot of stories.
Some of them are funny and some plain horrifying.
Battling our own beliefs and that of our society,we end up in a sort of limbo.
Maybe it would be good to share with the story of our marriage escapades.
maybe it wouldn't be so good.
i don't know ..
Thoughts?
Some of them are funny and some plain horrifying.
Battling our own beliefs and that of our society,we end up in a sort of limbo.
Maybe it would be good to share with the story of our marriage escapades.
maybe it wouldn't be so good.
i don't know ..
Thoughts?
13 Comments:
do tell:)
i'm in such society actually where being 22 and married is considered bad yet who cares love. I think as long as we find the right person we will be happy even if we are in our forties and not married,
Well I'm bored. So lets hear them!
Deema
true, but u still hve to face soiety & there 'pity'
ren
i am only here to entertain you :)
Totally agree with you .
Follow each other .
I'd love to hear the marriage escapades. I'm only 21 and already being annoyed about getting married because it's "my turn"
Eshda3wa , I'm in similar situation, Age and Career wise. I think we are presented as opinionated women. We speak up, we don't hide our emotions, we show them and men don't like that.
I'm blessed that I lived and studied abroad. I'm the person who am I today due to such experience. Do I regret it? No way but I wish that society and men in particular would look at us as great companions in life who are more than ready and willing to co-share life in a highly uniquely way.
Our experiences should be seen as an advantage nevertheless,
I feel like the whole 'marriage pressure' thing starts when you go to college.
I held it off for a long time and it is one of the best things I did...I did it when it was on my "own terms" and I highly advise this.
I upset elder siblings (who thought I was 'wasting time') I even upset my grandmother once who wanted me to marry a particular person for which I declined before meeting because I felt marrying cousins is not something I can do.
It doesn't matter who wants you to marry whom...you're the one who will be living alone with them at the end of the day. It's your choice, do it when you're ready and yes, you're allowed to be picky it's an important decision.
P.S my siblings and grandmother are not upset with me at all now...ah drama!
I'm 21 & already married .. i'll be lying if i said that i don't miss being single .. I think I rushed a little bit but at first it seemed the right thing to do
My marriage is happy el7md llah but sometimes i feel that i'm such a pessimistic person by looking at the dark side of things :/
Well .. I don't think that being in your late 20s people should pity on you cuz you're not married cuz he's out there & if he comes you're gonna feel it & you won't be able to say no
yeh i remeber those days! starts in college like they said ,, the same question over and over! untill ur about to lose it .. then instead of losing it.. if ur a strong person u just let it pass as if someone just said "hi" lol i used to smile and say "inshallah" i would repeat that word a 100 times if i had to .. nothing more or less..
al7mdellah .. do it only when u know and trust ur gut feeling.. when u feel its right ;)
I think sharing these stories could be fun reading. But on a more serious note, God has many doors for happiness and marriage to a good person is just one of them. A lot of women don't ever get married and they are far from sad or miserable because of it. But I think the pressure from society and not just our society, it's pretty much universal, makes you feel like marriage MUST be the next step. Actually, if marriage doesn't come it's not cancer, it's not AIDS, it's just a shift in strategy.
i agree with Deema.
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