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October 30, 2007

Coming Home




It's my last year in university and for some reason I cant put my finger on, I'm terrified of moving back home.
It's not like I'm going to miss my independence or anything like that, my life in Kuwait is pretty much the same as it is here.
I know I'm going to miss having my own apartment. I love my place, and the thought of leaving it breaks my heart. But its still not the reason why my stomach turns when I think about coming home.
Is it normal?
Did anyone else go through this?
I really don't want to get depressed over this!

(will tell you more about what im going through after I finish my wave of quizzes)
posted by eshda3wa at 3:51 PM

31 Comments:

All i can say is wish you the best of luck in getting over your feelings of moving back home...think of it as a positive thing that you will be experiencing and living...it will be all good!
you have to do it. you do not want to be in college for the rest of your life. there is more to life than being in school. again, best of luck!

October 30, 2007 at 4:41 PM  

tara that's normal maybe because there won't be anything to look forward to when you come back but a boring routine. Cheer up!

October 30, 2007 at 5:16 PM  

It is my 6th year abroad. Personally, I can not wait to get back. Especially knowing that I have to leave home again in few years to continue my studies

October 30, 2007 at 5:17 PM  

as someone whose settled in a city and then left back home like 3 times already (undergrad, internship, grad school), that's normal! You'll probably even shed a few tears, 3adi 7abibti!

Just try to think of all of the positive things about going back home to have something to look forward to, that's my advice, because there's just no point in the 'mourning' and getting nervous.

October 30, 2007 at 5:38 PM  

that's my area of expertise. I was a drama queen when it was time to go home. I suggest doing 2 things:
1- Enjoy all the things you can't enjoy while you are in kuwait whether it is independence, clubbing or cussing out at people or whatever

2- Start to find all the things you hate about your place and compare them with the good things you have back in kuwait..And slowly start to embed these things in your mind till they settle and make the feeling of going back home less dramatic.

I totally know how you feel. Allah y3eeenek and you have my full support. :(

October 30, 2007 at 5:52 PM  

i think what you're feeling is very common. everyone has a "comfort zone" and most people feel a sense of anxiety leaving that "comfort zone" - hence the term.

it need not be an apartment. it could be a job that you've been at for a long time. even though conditions are difficult, you bear with them instead of going out and finding a new job.

so don't worry, it happens to the best of us. i'm sure you'll feel better after some time back home.

October 30, 2007 at 6:12 PM  

We've all been thru it. Finishing high school, finishing university.. Its always tough moving on to something new (and unpredictable)

But beleive me, too much of one thing is boring. When u graduate, u'll realize that post-grad life is just as fun :D

October 30, 2007 at 6:27 PM  

one word: MASTERS!

October 30, 2007 at 7:26 PM  

hmmm well mabe u've stayed in ur comfort zone oo 5ayfa of the future ahead...madre

October 30, 2007 at 10:18 PM  

it's not the end, ur in a looooong vacation and I agree with master's degree suggestions. you will miss college life a year from now...but work will be SO EXCITING which will stop the stomache flipping

October 30, 2007 at 10:29 PM  

I wish i can go through this ;p

but hey i think its simple, just take it easy you can still have your own apartment in kuwait...right?

October 30, 2007 at 11:57 PM  

Bel3aks babe... it's better for you here with your family, you can still feel independent :)

October 31, 2007 at 12:00 AM  

i want to goooo back to having my own place !

October 31, 2007 at 12:21 AM  

EVERYONE goes through this

totally normal, and means that u've enjoyed your last 4 years

any good thing coming to an end will make u feel that way, but it doesn't mean that u wont like being back home; that's a toss-up

good luck !

October 31, 2007 at 12:32 AM  

*huuuug* hey its ok ,, its just human nature we don't like moving and shifting about, i call it traveling blues :)

October 31, 2007 at 2:15 AM  

Oh I think you will be just fine inshallah.. and you can still be the same, independant and all that.. It's just that you got used to where you are.. Good Luck dear!

October 31, 2007 at 3:14 AM  

I never was depressed but I did miss the full independence that I had and I missed a lot of my good friends. Its nice to have a lot of options when living in the states to go out to eat or do something with friends.

Also the services is what I do miss, you can always find what you want somewhere unlike in Kuwait.

I loved my apartment, and felt so comfortable in it and I loved cooking there and taking care of everything myself. That is how I felt.

In Kuwait you just have to make a life for yourself and make sure you got everything together and enjoy yourself completely.

October 31, 2007 at 7:03 AM  

When I moved out of uni I didn't go back home, I moved to another house. I got the stomach turns and stuff because it is an anxiety reaction when you jump into something completely new. You are going from one phase to another and this is a big thing.

Plus, you would really be missing your own place.

October 31, 2007 at 9:10 AM  

7yate i`ve never been in this situation but i shifting from place to another is hard but thenm u will get used ti it

October 31, 2007 at 10:00 AM  

3adi it happens. The reason probably has something to do with the idea of change, and going to back to something that was once something and is now different. You were used to the idea of going back for vacations, this time it is permanent.

Keep you options open.. and enshalla it'll all be cool!

October 31, 2007 at 12:50 PM  

terji3een lina bissalama! I know what you mean. I was in the States. I am fine in Kuwait but to be honest I do miss my place and life sometimes. Its normal. I think you are having what they call "senioritis" dont let it get into you and concentrate on your studies more :-) All the best luck :-***

October 31, 2007 at 1:09 PM  

i think its normal ... just got used to something and now everything is just gonna be different .. good luck with your exams :*

October 31, 2007 at 9:40 PM  

where are you studying?
so2al bay5 i know...but i'm curious ;p

October 31, 2007 at 10:19 PM  

B3ad 3omriii :*** all the previous comments ma qa9eraw they said it all :) yalla ta3alay nawreelna el kuwait

October 31, 2007 at 11:07 PM  

honestly, i didn't feel that way when moving back, but now i realize it was because i was too naiive and optimistic. There are things that are going to suck about moving back here, and it's good you see that now, but there are things that are going to be great. The key is to keep those great things in mind. Plus, everyone graduates with their friends.. so you all will be moving on, it's not like they'll still be there and you'll be missing out. Best of luck!!

October 31, 2007 at 11:36 PM  

Its soooo normal, and its going to be hard at first. Madry I noticed that all my friends and I went through the same things (withdrawal from our OWN life)
but if you have amazing friends and a job, it will make life so much easier.
Enjoy your last year in college, don't think about the future, live in the moment.
Good luck! :)

October 31, 2007 at 11:38 PM  

it's normal and probably more difficult to adjust for girls than guys because guys can maintain some independence even when they're back.. enjoy your remaining time.. it's different here but there is so much to enjoy here too like friends and family so it shouldn't be that bad!

October 31, 2007 at 11:47 PM  

when you stay in a place long enough, you start to adjust, and lose adjustment to your previous place. thats what happened when you left kuwait; you started getting used to the way of life in your new place, whether its having independance, your own place, and so on.

going back is an inconvenience. the first few days will be annoying and nothing will feel in place, until you start settling down... if you stay for long enough, actually going back there will start to feel wierd...

November 1, 2007 at 12:54 PM  

it'll be a bitch , no way of sugar coating it but u'll live :)

November 2, 2007 at 1:36 AM  

It's normal .. It's only a human being thingy ! people tend to resist changes .. thats it bs

November 2, 2007 at 2:26 AM  

Wallah I get this feeling all of the time because of my home. I want someone to adopt me :}~

Lol. Good luck sweetie.

November 2, 2007 at 9:15 AM  

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