October 9, 2007
Response To Rape
I chose not to reply to your individual comments and write a post instead. I think most people did not get, why I decided to share this story with you. I was not looking for sympathy or pity from anyone, because quite frankly they are not going to get us anywhere.
My post was not to justify what my friend has done or to exempt her from her share of the blame.
We live in a society where everything gets swept under the carpet. If we don't talk about it, If we don't acknowledge it, then it doesn't happen. Well I have news for you, it does happen, and it happens a whole lot.
People got too busy voicing their opinions, taking sides, pointing fingers, but NO ONE stopped for a minit to think on how to deal with the situation. The bottom line is, a 27 year old man raped, or had sex, whichever way you want to look at it, with a 14 year old girl. The events that lead to that should be forgotten.
You have a broken child in front of you screaming for help but no one wants to listen, no one wants to deal with anything. Why do we alienate people so much that they have no one to turn to, no where to go?
Why should a person whether u see them as a victim or not, have to fight a loosing battle by them self. No one especially a 14 year old kid deserves to be contemplating suicide on a daily bases. that is just WRONG.
No adult male should feel he is able to have sex with a child and be 100 percent sure he will not be held accountable! Why? because he knows our society would be too busy judging her than actually stopping him. Which is why he went on to rape two other girls of which I know of, and I keep wondering if that monster is still out there taking advantage of young girls.
I cant believe people were more concerned weather or not she lost her virginity than by the fact that she lost herself.
No, most of you were not sitting next to her in geometry class watching her tear at her own skin with a compass because she wanted to feel pain other than the pain of hating herself. You did not watch her wither away to only a shadow of her former self.
You were too busy thinking shes a horny sex crazed bitch that deserved what she got, she put herself in that situation let her deal with it, after all you reap what you sow.
So let me ask you this, when 1001 nights wrote a post asking us to Pray for Ahmed the drug addict who called a religious radio show and told them he abuses drugs, he tried going to rehab but failed, and all he wants is to be happy and normal. Do you say no one held a gun to his head and told him to snort cocaine? or say if he was raised properly then he wouldn't have gotten himself in the situation? or would you forget all the events that led there and deal with the actual problem??
I wrote the previous posts to
1- bring awareness that those kinds of things actually happen
2- If one day you are approached by someone trying to tell you a horrid story, leave the judging to God almighty, and maybe offer a helping hand, a shoulder to cry on, or even a kind word!
Allah la yable a7ad inshallah