eshda3wa

August 5, 2008

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Dear Eshd3wa,

I have been a fan of your blog for a while now, and I love reading it..keep it up!!
Im emailing you because a while ago, you have posted on your blog that readers can use your blog to post their stories and issues..etc..so if you are still welcome that, I would like you to post this story, I need to know what you and everyone else thinks about it, so here it goes:

My friend (M) is an independent college grad, and working girl, has a very ambitious personality, she has feelings for (L), who confessed his deep love for her and commitment at a very young age, (L) is still a student in college with a part time job, and already made up his mind about his future plans...at first (M) appreciated L's honesty, courage, care and attention yet, didnt completely trust (L) thinking the feelings are merely a teenage phase,but 2 years later (L) still feels the same, currently in his early twenties, M's appreciation is growing day by day, into admiration and like..(alot of like) but the question is, is it L.O.V.E? M is unsure, cant feel sparks although there is some sort of vibe going on..and if it is, is it right? according to society it isnt because of social differences and age differences..M is very confused about L and doesnt know if she is only misleading him or should she just go with the flow ignore her brains and logic and simply listen to her heart?

what do you think? Nay or Yay??
all opinions are appreciated, please let me know soon
hoping to hear from you soon..Thanks.
posted by eshda3wa at 12:00 AM

25 Comments:

They should be the judge. Depends on what what they want...are they compatible mentally, spiritually, socially...etc. Dunno let her give herself a chance and see how she feels about him as a friend...see where it goes...

August 5, 2008 at 2:27 AM  

I say YAY! its not all the time you can find someone who will love unconditionally she should appreciate that. And if she doesnt love him she will learn too.

August 5, 2008 at 3:12 AM  

In our society, I do believe that logic should be referred to before making a desicion.

I know a couple who broke up because when the guy asked his parents permission to get married, they refused to give him their blessing. Although the age difference was of 2 years only. Shame!

You never know, maybe with them it's different. She has to be straight-forward about the whole thing cuz 7aram it3alga for such a long time. If she has this certain vibe then maybe there is something there. If he loves her and is commited then there's no reason for them to not give it a shot.

Even if that doesn't work out, at least they won't spend the rest of their lives wondering what if..

August 5, 2008 at 4:02 AM  

nay!

he's not even trying and he hasn't even hinted about their future plans together, mako fayda! he has a job and as it seems this girl wants to settle but this guy is just not ready, why waste all the time if he's not worth it

August 5, 2008 at 10:16 AM  

فحيحيلي يفند نظرية السبارك

definiton of spark :


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spark 1 ?? (sp䲫) KEY ?

NOUN:

An incandescent particle, especially:
One thrown off from a burning substance.
One resulting from friction.
One remaining in an otherwise extinguished fire; an ember.
A glistening particle, as of metal.

A flash of light, especially a flash produced by electric discharge.
A short pulse or flow of electric current.
A trace or suggestion, as:
A quality or feeling with latent potential; a seed or germ: the spark of genius.
A vital, animating, or activating factor: the spark of revolution.
sparks (used with a sing. verb) Informal A radio operator aboard a ship.
Electricity
The luminous phenomenon resulting from a disruptive discharge through an insulating material.
The discharge itself.


على الرغم من ان تعريف السبارك يختلف على حسب الإطار الذي توضع فيه الكلمه إلا أنه وبالإجماع المده الزمنية التي يستمر بها السبارك لا تتجاوز الجزء من الثانية --

so whoever wants to base his relationship on something that lasted a NANO SECOND -- I have to say I am sorry -- get a life.

August 5, 2008 at 10:43 AM  

The friend looks like more of a meddler than a helper, she should stop messing up in someone else's affair..

August 5, 2008 at 10:44 AM  

Yes seems L so in love with her and M so too but confused with thoughts, gotta tell you something is it early to fall in love? it doesnt matter.However, loving someone whos in same age or younger ham doesnt matter but if she is confused and unsure or anything else with negative thoughtful then get over it just let her tell him about her feelings,trust me L will understand though it hurts him but it'll go away sooner or later. im not telling M not to love or to love but if she's feeling that way then go that way! Don't Ignore the mind! (cause following heart instead of Mind,not really good)
Love has to make sure between couple but do not stay if not sure for some reason.
I hope im replying right for your problem :) have fun

August 5, 2008 at 11:35 AM  

She should use both to make a solid decision.

August 5, 2008 at 12:17 PM  

seems like shes loving the attention not L,

seems like shes blaming evry thing on the obstacles between them if these problems didnt exisst she may see it clear that shes not luving him shes only luviing that he luves her

August 5, 2008 at 2:18 PM  

I agree with Shahad. Lw she loves him chan she didn't hesitate chethe. La it'6ay3ah min eydha. No one will love her again, bs mako 7ob kil il naas 9araw chethb w 9aidat! Ro7aay ib ne9ibich ya M.

August 5, 2008 at 2:33 PM  

they should give it a try .... if it works --> huzzah; if not then at least they tried.

Either way the person who sent the email should stay out of it or she and M will prolly end up hating each other ....

August 5, 2008 at 5:50 PM  

well i dont agree on following just the heart, cuz by time love may fades away * yes it happens all the time *

so if she doesnt feel the sparkle just like what you said then i think she must take more thoughts about that !
its not an easy thing to do. but just following the heart is a bad idea specially she is not sure if she loves that L guy or no !!

August 5, 2008 at 7:42 PM  

Well, if she can't bear being apart from him then it is love but she doesn't know it.


You can't have a reason to love, but, you love to have a reason.

August 5, 2008 at 9:11 PM  

ok they love each other which is somthing nice, but not all love storues end up with a happy ending
she shoudl think it throudh more then once and not lsn to anyone, this is something that she has to do for herself
no one will know wys in her mind more then her ..

August 5, 2008 at 11:10 PM  

If shes not sure about it then they shudnt do it. If shes really inlove then she wud have sed yes right away. Love is not a maybe thing

August 6, 2008 at 4:48 AM  

They say choose the man who loves you more than you love him...

But if after two years of being together (ish?) there's just a spark... that's not a really good indicator... is it?

August 6, 2008 at 7:46 AM  

you are answering your own self,
2 years later and still not sure about him?
M is not convinced by L, she can like him as much but she sounds like woman with a personality that is more biased towards her better judgment not her heart, when someone like L, is so sure and devoted all this time, is matched up with someone like M, he would feel challenged to prove himself more, while should considered it a behavior/conscious act, M it’s in your hands!!
what do you want??
we can’t read your heart, you can, even if it’s love and your mind is questioning it, then it’s doomed
if you care about L you should be clear and honest with him

August 6, 2008 at 10:34 AM  

I would say YAY, because if he is honest and trying his best age difference is not that important. Whats important is a strong relation.
There is more to it in the good side,
always look at whats good.

August 6, 2008 at 2:58 PM  

2 years and she's not sure!!
I'm not saying Nay, but she should take another look at the situation before making a decision

August 6, 2008 at 7:31 PM  

etha mu wath'3a lat3alig il walad oo about age so what a98ar menha ib 2yrs 3aadi aham shay ena ekoon 5osh wa7d my czn ma5tha wa7id a98ar menha ib a yr madree 2 oo they r happy il 7mdilla... let her follow her heart oo these days makoo reyayeel san3a so if u find one keep him:P

August 6, 2008 at 11:38 PM  

i think they should be friends and know each other more , till they know its the right time to be together , thats just what i SEE BUT i think its her dicision and not any1 elses

August 7, 2008 at 10:00 AM  

I like :)

August 7, 2008 at 3:16 PM  

I believe she should use her head because a heart can mislead you. She does not want to live in regret her whole life whither she uses her logic or heart.

August 7, 2008 at 10:26 PM  

Always follow your heart...
but only after you have used your mind to analyze the situation.

I wish I would listen to my own advice! Hehe...

August 8, 2008 at 1:00 AM  

yaaay !

August 8, 2008 at 10:23 AM  

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