May 15, 2009
On Marriage & Crap Like That
"You are the generation that refuses to compromise, that's why you will never make a marriage last"
This was a conversation I had at work with my colleagues.
The older generation aghast at our out look on married life.
Why none of us the, young drs, want to be married.
Actually seek would be a better word.
None of us are on the lookout.
If it happens it happens.
While the conversation deepened and stretched Dr D. said: even if i get married i dont want to have a kid right away. I want to wait a while in case we get separated or the marriage doesnt workout or something.
Which caused the older generation to hang their mouths open in shock
and the younger generation nod in agreement.
"you cant enter a marriage thinking it might not work out!"
and thats when the lecture started.
We are not the west.
There is no such thing as ana ele bamashe kelmity.
You girls are too independent for your own good.
and so on and so forth.
To my surprise what they said actually made a lot of sense.
I agreed with most of it.
But it still doesn't change the fact that marriage to me is not a goal or the next step in my life.
I don't know what it is, but i do know that i have major issues concerning it.
And the thought of it makes me throw up a little in my mouth.
Who wants to share a bathroom with a boy anyway.