eshda3wa

June 17, 2010

Making Amends




A couple of years ago i had a falling out with a person who used to be really close to me.


I cant tell you what the falling out was about, and the reason i cant tell u is because i dont remember !!


I was at the avenues and i saw her.
And in my head i was all oh my god its bessa!


I started walking towards her then halted.
Were not talking!

I waited for the familiar sence of anger when i thought of her and there was nothing!


Why am i not talking to you bessa?!

True we had our differences, but we were a lot more similar.

True we had our rough patches, but our life was full of smooth runs.

True we are never going to fully approve of the way we run our lives, but we can always agree to disagree cant we?


When we had the falling out, were waiting for the other person to take the first step.

But were as stubborn as each other.
And neither of us did.


I felt i was wronged and insulted, and my pride and dignity come above all else.

And she felt she was totally within her rights and waited for me to apologize.


And here we are two whole years later.

We missed so many big events in our lives.


I missed the birth of her daughter, and her first birthday.

She missed my graduation, my first job, my breakdown.


was it worth it?

Are we beyond repair?


How would she react if i call her?

Do i want to find out?


bessa ya bessa ... i miss u

and i love u
forever and extra foreverness

should i call?
or has it been too long?
posted by eshda3wa at 12:00 PM

31 Comments:

Don't call, try sms for now and see how she reacts.
be nice
be first
and if she was thinking the same way you're thinking, she will accept and let go the past.

and if you don't have the number.. that's shesma :/

June 17, 2010 at 12:09 PM  

OMG! I have the same case. She was my best friend, and we didn't talk for 2 years now! she lives in Canada and will be back to Jeddah for vacation in 3 days. We'll see what will happen.

Call your friend! :)

June 17, 2010 at 12:21 PM  

Email 1st and when you get an encouraging reply call right away

June 17, 2010 at 12:21 PM  

الحمد لله لم يكن هناك شخص قريب مني وابتعدت عنه من غير سبب او بسبب حتى افكر هذا التفكير فأنا من الناس احل المشكله في وقتها او متى ما سنح الوقت لتعود المياه الى مجاريها حتى لو كنت مو غلطان

اما الي حصل لي

كنت امشي بالسوق مره وشفت ولد خالتي رحت بسلم عليه واسولف معاه من زمااااان مو شايفه

بس وانا مجبل تذكرت انه ولد خالتي توفى من 5 سنوات:(

June 17, 2010 at 12:24 PM  

You should definitely call! it's never too late and it's always nice to be the person who makes amends and takes the frst step - believe me :)

June 17, 2010 at 12:46 PM  

I know exactly what you mean...

I hate fighting and losing ppl... i hate missing chunks out of their lives 3la stupid things that i cannot even remember...

You could send her an sms 'i saw you the other day in the Avenues o wedi asalim 3lech bs kheft a7rejich... how r u?'

bs

in radat 3leech 6a7 il 7a6ab

in ma radat b3d kana Allaho '3aforan Ra7eema shitsaween... marrat even if u get back toghether mako fayda the thing that was between you has left for ever with the fight...

June 17, 2010 at 1:06 PM  

Go for it, I mean what's the worse thing that can happen?

June 17, 2010 at 3:19 PM  

Yes, I would contact her. Otherwise you would always ask yourself those questions.
Regards, Tom

June 17, 2010 at 3:36 PM  

Its never too late,

oo i have the same problem when it comes to pride, dayman agool mabee adoos 3ala nafsee witha il sha59 9ij sharyny byee laih 3ndy,

bs what if that person is saying the same thing, she's ur friend wntay sharyat-ha, ma agoolich 9eray il a7san coz that itself is not a reason to mend what has been broken, bs agoolich why live with this regret, oo u dont really want to miss out on more events in each others lives so go for it oo give her a call, lmsam7 kareem :)

witha it doesnt turn out the way u want it to, theres nothing to be sad about oo karamtch ma7foo'6a, sawaitay ily 3alaich oo u'll never feel guilty for not trying to get back in touch

gd luck

June 17, 2010 at 6:11 PM  

ee 9eray a7san mnha

June 17, 2010 at 6:49 PM  

call .. why not ?

June 17, 2010 at 6:49 PM  

definitely call...what's the worse that can happen? she's probably having the same thoughts as u too...but even if it doesn't turn out as well as u expect it too...then oh well, as least u had the guts to try (:

June 17, 2010 at 8:49 PM  

You've been Tagged !!

June 17, 2010 at 11:12 PM  

the stig
its shesma :s

HP
i have to check if she still has the same email

EU
r u gna see her?

chabreet
thats so saad!
allah yr7ama inshalah :((

Ali M
i dont know about nice
its hard!

danderma
ur rite, its just mali khlg el7achi elzayed u know ..
god its hardddd!

java chip
the worst thing..
its like opening Pandoras box

Tom
true ... very true

D.D
ana i usually confront the problem head on.. when we first got into the arguement i told her what was bothering me
she told be to f. off.
so madre, shes a difficult person!
bs i missss herr!

c c
madre :/

A P
i already am :PP

koko
guts..
thats what im lacking rite now!

socomoco
ok thanks!

June 18, 2010 at 12:41 AM  

I believe in always being the bigger person in any situation.

Don't let pride or stubbornness interfere with your relationships, there's not harm in saying you're sorry even when you've done nothing wrong. In the end tekbereen eb 3ain esha59 ely jidamich, and you can sleep better at night knowing you've done what you could.

bel 3ax, be the bigger person. Even if their reaction hurts.

June 18, 2010 at 12:59 AM  

coconut
i know
and i agree with everything youve said,
i just dont think i have it in me :(

June 18, 2010 at 8:35 AM  

oola 2 yrs .. missed her daughters birth... taw il nas u call ...just forget about it i think .. its too late to make amends..chan yom shifteeha bll avenues u said hi .. as for randomly calling now.. it will just look like u want something..

June 18, 2010 at 12:50 PM  

SMS or email would be better. But since you don't hve her # and don't know about the email,if I were you I would just say hi at the avenues.. no chance to get the wrong feelings or reaction 7azat.ha!

Good luck!

June 18, 2010 at 5:23 PM  

Me and my best friend always fight :P not always but more often! methel jenni o 3e6ba :P but thats what it is all about! that's why she's called ur best friend !

i didnt talk to my best friend for more than one yr once but it wasnt worth it believe me :)

sms her 1st !

June 18, 2010 at 7:56 PM  

been thru the same thing
but weve been apart for about 5 years..
i called her after not having her in my life started to literally hur.
my pride .. what ever issue we had or differences.. had to be looked over.

i called and i was crying over the phone coz i was going thru hard times .. and she was all i could think of, no one knew me like she did. we immediately started talking and talking .. we met the next day like nothing ever happened.

if shes that kind of person and u trust she wont hurt u further more. then make the call and dont think about it.

June 19, 2010 at 7:09 AM  

call call call =D

its never too late to call =)

June 19, 2010 at 9:02 AM  

I think you should give her a casual call just ask about how everything is, etc. Keep it light! Baby steps. I'm sure you want to or you wouldn't be asking what you should doif you didn't care.

Good luck on whatever you choose to do!

June 19, 2010 at 3:04 PM  

i agree with the stig, 1st send an sms and see how it goes, u wont have to face the awkwardness of the phone call..

June 19, 2010 at 10:32 PM  

callll herrrrr!

June 19, 2010 at 10:45 PM  

Sms her, see how she's doing.. then call

June 20, 2010 at 3:35 PM  

I think you should call :)

June 20, 2010 at 9:31 PM  

In my honest opinion I think time heals all wounds! You might not be as close, but forgiving and forgetting is a good think! I honestly think that forgetting is a gift from God! It has its many benefits, and forgetting an old issue is one of them!

You can try, and so you don't feel that you didn't do something that you felt was right!

June 20, 2010 at 10:36 PM  

LOVING that picture.

June 21, 2010 at 12:32 AM  

aaw! its great that u have forgotten the reason of the fallout..ur a forgiver:)
what r u waiting for? contact her! no telephone though try smsing/facebooking or whatever:)

June 22, 2010 at 8:12 PM  

Ha what happened ? Hope she calls you back :)

June 28, 2010 at 11:14 AM  

Get in touch, somehow, be the better one. You missed stuff in each other's lives but there are more to come.

If you don't remember it the reason for your not speaking, it probably wasn't worth it.

August 15, 2010 at 7:23 AM  

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