eshda3wa

April 12, 2007

In This Day & Age



Based on a true story

Once upon a time (a year ago) a timid little 20 year old girl(lets call her sebeecha) got married to a guy (lets call him marzoog met7at) from a wonderful family, wonderful reputation, the first man in her life, she was heads over heals for him. During their engagement (milcha) she noticed he was a little short tempered, but that didn't matter, she was in love.
They got married, she moved into their little love shack in his parents home, and soon saw him in his true colors. From the second day he started beating her for no reason at all. He would come home, she would be watching TV in the living room, he would walk in, beat her till she fell unconscious, then kick her till she regained consciousness and demand lunch.
And so it continued. There were good days when he was loving caring and attentive, but sebeecha lived in fear. She stopped visiting her family afraid they would notice her bruises and her shame, afraid they would start asking questions, it was her fault, of course it was.

7 months into her marriage Marzoog Met7at came home with fire in his eyes, his boss at work totally humiliated him for being late all week long, and whose fault is that? sebeecha of course, for not waking him up, for not providing him with a comfortable atmosphere at home where he actually mite want to be instead of the dowaniya.

Marzoog Met7at spent the next two hours channeling his rage through his fists and using sebeecha as a punching bag. That resulted in alot of blood a broken nose, a bruised rib cage, a broken arm and a damaged kidney. sebeecha was rushed to the hospital, and one of her in laws notified her parents.

Her parents were mortified to say the least, how could this be happening to our daughter and we didn't know anything about it. Sbeechas father fell into a state of utter depression and guilt, and was determined to end his daughters misery.

Once sebeecha was well enough to go home, marzoog insisted she comes back with him where she belongs, but her father would hear non of it. He took his daughter back with him and demanded Marzoog Met7at divorce her. No one beats a daughter of mine he boomed.

Three months later sbeechas health drastically improved, her bones were healing fine, and she would be getting a nose job soon.

Now i don't know what happened in between this event and whats about to happen next, but maybe sebeecha took a harder blow to the head than we thought, cause one day in the middle of the night sebeecha ran away from her fathers home and went back to marzoog Met7at

Her father was devastated, how could she do that? When her parents called to ask her why she ran away, her answer was simple, i don't what to be divorced

SAY WHAT!!

her mom tried to make sense of it: you mean you love him?
sebeecha: no mom, i don't love him, i hate his guts, but i don't want to be labeled as a divorced woman, i don't want people to look at me like I'm a failure

I am speechless, i cannot make sense of the situation, she would rather live in fear for her life, get beat up and humiliated so she would not be labeled!

Sebeechas father dosent speak to her anymore, and when her husband beats her, he says its like daggers stabbing him but there is nothing he can do about it.

To think in this day and age, some people still value image over happiness

sad



posted by eshda3wa at 12:01 AM

61 Comments:

That's really sad. Divorced women really have a tough time in our countries, needlessly. I still don't fathom how a divorce is labeled as a failure. Even with the guy you know (of course it's incomparable to what the woman faces), if he is divorced and he tries to remarry the parents of his wife-to-be will start thinking "Maybe he makes a bad husband?" It's not about succeeding or failing or being good or bad. It's about compatibility. I think the woman can be convinced to leave him, her family should not give up on her.

April 12, 2007 at 1:34 AM  

I support kind to women and against violence against them ..

:))

April 12, 2007 at 2:14 AM  

Divorce is Halal. People mustn't be afraid of other people's opinion and should be afraid of Allah alone. When they fear other people, Allah will make them an example for others for not fearing him.

AlhamduliAllah w Ishiker.

April 12, 2007 at 2:33 AM  

plzz note...I am still in teh venting state...

malaaaaaaaat 3aliha...sij ma 3ndah salfa....omg 3a6ini yaha ow shofay shasawi fiha....I will beat her harder than marzoog did..maybe some sense would pop into her thick head.....wallah 7aretini....is htis a true story...wallah maskharah!!!1

eshfeeha the divoreced woman...she is a survivor...mo methlich ya sbeecha...loser....she "the divoreced" managed to get her life into control...

allah y3een ahalha wallah...sij agony!!!

bas mabye hal marzoog is a sweet talker...and he better be for that loser to run back to him!!...he better have send something so important for her to say she doesnt want to be divorced....

he is a sick man...he needs help...and so does she!!

malaaat 3alihoum ehma lathneen :/

sij kel wa7ed oe lah 6abjetah...testahel...

I think i have said too much....I am sorry to sbeecha...bas eklah min ha...for reall....its her fault and no one else's!!!!!

April 12, 2007 at 2:44 AM  

I just sent my sociology teacher an article to ok about this topic 8-) inshala she accepts. The woman who wrote the article was complainin about two things 1) how there aren't any shelters that help women who get beaten by their husbands 2) The whole shame thing stops them from reporting and hence it wont stop

bes in this case she really is goin way out to stay married =/ Shlown her inlaws sakteen 3ala her husband if i had a bro and he did that to his wife id beat some sense into him to show him how it feels

April 12, 2007 at 4:58 AM  

shes not only afraid of being a divocee(apparently its big deal in the damn screwed up arab society)but she is also in an abusive relationship. And as u mentioned she lives in fear because there are times when he is attnetive, so she lives in a state of mixed fear hope and denial. Add in the factor of divorce being taboo she is your perfect mold of an abused that cannot FUCNTION without those factors in her life..A word for the wise esh3d3awa Get her the fuck out of it now..I dont care how you do it..She will cease to exist. Find her help let her talk it out and then physically remove her for the stituation..

April 12, 2007 at 7:16 AM  

LOOOOOL! sbeecha oo marzouq ??? hathol asamehom bas yo7i bel hwash oo el6ag

LOOOOOL! @ "malaaat 3alihoum ehma lathneen :/" by ghasheema

anyway, i support takseer ras al7areem ;P

just kiddin, totally against that

April 12, 2007 at 10:47 AM  

waaaaaaaaaaaaaai! kash sha3ar yanbi!
1- blame it partially on our society ou the image il zift ili they give it to divorced woemen
2-sebeeeecha is '3abia
3-marzoog is 7mar
4- ahal sebeecha shouldve done something
5-sebeecha is '3abia again

April 12, 2007 at 11:07 AM  

This is a terrible problem in Arab society. Our neighbour's daughter suffered the same, but eventually she could not take it any more and divorced him before she could bear a child.

Unfortunately she is now "divorced" and is having difficulty finding a man for two reasons. The mother of the potential man will see her as unfit because she is a failure, and the man would see her unfit because he will be disturbed by the fact that she is no longer a virgin (although it is funny that men in Arab society have no problem having sex during their teens and youth but when they get married they expect a virgin... and they didn't think that they ruined the future of all those women they slept with before)

April 12, 2007 at 11:10 AM  

I'm hopefull that in this day and age more guys have less problems with divorced women. Being divorced does not mean it is her fault, rather, judgment should fall based on someone's actions. I only hope, ppl could truly face the world and fear God rather than fear the Image ppl will place on them.

April 12, 2007 at 12:01 PM  

*hamza is back with his evil schemes*

if she's ur friend and you care for her, suggest for her the following: "to tell her husband that she is pregnant and any more abuse to her would hurt the baby...at least that will keep him busy for a while...and after 3 or 4 months, he'll eventually hit her and let her claim that she lost the baby"..

Tell me how it goes :(

April 12, 2007 at 12:10 PM  

its not only in arab societies that divorced women are looked down upon, madree itha u watch desperate housewives but one of the latest episodes have one of the women's future in-laws mistake her for being a widower rather than a divorcee and when she learned the truth she berated her for being one. What this woman needs is to know that men will accept her for being a divorced woman and maybe by then she'll come to accept the wath3 as well

April 12, 2007 at 2:03 PM  

I know a girl like that... Her husband beat her up and took her money, and she finally had the guts to tell her parents when he entered the bedroom with a knife. Turns out he has mental problems and the inlaws knew about it but didn't mention it cuz they hoped marriage would fix him!!!!!!

She got a divorce, and a few months later got married to a great guy and she's happy with a baby now.

I would rather be divorced than suffer humiliation from a man. "Sebecha" ma 3endaha salfa..

April 12, 2007 at 3:32 PM  

well..alots been said and written above..some ok, and some not really..and some funny..
elmoshkela mo feha (sebecha), it`s him ( marzoog ) he is the moshkella..you said he hit her the 2nd day..obviously somethings wrong with this dethwy athwal husband..so, that means enna there r no 7al for this problem la ma7kam wala 6lag wala ayshy men hal5rabee6..

I think any woman that has this kind of dumbass husband should let him taste the same feelings..self defense classes will do, "seriously".
Some simple moves and twists..and the husband will feel mas5ara..and hurt..then he will learn inna ma yemmed edda 3alla zogta o yo7e6 nafsa fe mawkef zeft..so sbeecha..you should kick ur husband's butt..

I will open class for free..yalla mo meshkella..you could pay me after the result hehe..LoL

April 12, 2007 at 4:33 PM  

I think women is this sort of marriage- just need one thing and that is---GET THE HELL OUT!
Leave his sorry ass, and find some one better. Someone that loves you, treats you with the utmost respect, and has care and compassion.
Why on earth wud she go back to someone that hurts her so much??? Just becuz she doesnt want to be "Divorced"? Come on girl, keep ur dignity in your hands, dont go back to a scumbag.
There are plenty of fish in the sea!
Go fishin'!!!!! And if that doesnt work call kella met2a5er and let him hook u up!
You dont have to live your life this way, Sabeecha! Life is toooo short!

April 12, 2007 at 4:37 PM  

By the way..is that a real story?

ana agool 5al tetzawaj hendy..he will not hit her..wulla a7san men hal5ayes, 5al ta7feth kramatha..

and I have just the right one..bo mirror. Check it out on my blog, he is cool and got hes ride pimped!!! :)

And..yeah by the way, again..is that a real story??

April 12, 2007 at 4:43 PM  

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April 12, 2007 at 4:44 PM  

i hope that its just a story, nothing more.

sadly, your comment about image versus happiness is still very true.

i have a relative who has been divorced for a good 15 - 20 years after her then husband beat her up and eventually left her for another woman. but till today, she still goes by "mrs ..." - insert ex-husband's name in "...". when people ask about her husband, her comment would be "he's overseas" and other excuses like that.

i simply cannot understand what goes on in such people's minds.

geez...

April 12, 2007 at 4:46 PM  

I would rather live with my parents and have my dignity and be called a "mo6ala8ah" and not live in total fear of him coming and abusing me daily.

Allah ye3eenaha who ever she is, and I wish that her life would change and become a better life *prays*

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April 12, 2007 at 6:29 PM  

She's a classic case of victim mentality.

I feel sorry for her, but you have to understand that women in these situations are really delirious about their realities. *Sounds like Dr. Phil*

And to this day and age nothing has changed. Arab societies still have some of the sickest and most twisted mentalities of the 15th century (and sometimes of cavemen). It's all under the "Eastern Man"'s sun!

April 12, 2007 at 6:35 PM  

OMG!!!!! HATHY MN 9IJHA!? and what's wrong with being divorced? it's not like the end of the world! I think it's more better than being beaten up and humiliated by what u call a husband!

GRrrrrrrrr... women like Sbeecha annoy the bug outta me..I pitty her and her little mind!

now I feel like beating her!

April 12, 2007 at 7:02 PM  

I think Sebeecha must have met my mother !

April 12, 2007 at 8:12 PM  

Very sad, so true but I was just discussing this issue with a coupla ma friends today, being divorced ain't a bad thing in the socitey now, actually people who get married the 2nd time, get luckier bas some women are weak and tend to be dramatic and give a whole lotta shit to "what people say" which never stops and GRRRR.. am pissed off now too! Shhhooot!

April 13, 2007 at 12:28 AM  

I hate this, If that happened to anyone I know I would be in jail, and the husband in his Dam grave preparing for eternal hell!!

These God dam people those that believe that appearances are the most important thing in the world, those who find that seeming just is better than being just, those who suffer because of what the ideots around them think, Dam them all to hell!!!!

April 13, 2007 at 12:30 AM  

OMG!! OMG!! i need air!! *breathe* ambeh! i cant believe this.. there should be an organization or smth to deal with abusive husbands like freakin marzooq!! he's an idoit!! wallah wallah if i know this guy i'd go kick his sorry a** wallah i'd do that!! 3mb b3eena ma yst7i qleel el adab!! wallah la a7wb feeh a5leeh wain ma y6qha 3ooya!! OMG!!
and what the hell!!!? get a divorce 3adi shno y3ni!! i know wayd girls divorced!! ya allah!! shloon sm ppl think!! my prayers go out for the poor girl :(
offf im so mad!!

April 13, 2007 at 2:50 AM  

So sad..once ppll & society change their attitude toward ” Divorced & single women” , we will never see other Sbeechas any more….some girls even get married to incompatible guys for the sake of not being labeled as SPINSTER

A555555555555555! Rifkan bel qawareeeer ya Arabs

April 13, 2007 at 7:36 AM  

Things.Like.These.Make.Me.Angry...

i can go on a big analysis on how society, religion abuse, and traditional expectations make and generate people like this, but i won't. it kills to see this is happening, like a silent killer.

changing this will take so much time. i honestly think we won't see the effects which might start showing after 4 or 5 generations after, most probably even more.

makes me heartbroken.

like ghasheema's comment:
"he is a sick man...he needs help...and so does she!!"

again because of what most society sadly thinks of shrinks and pychologists this SADLY doesn't happen and is another burden to change.

kj's "because he will be disturbed by the fact that she is no longer a virgin" :( this is VERY sad.

another comment of "GET THE HELL OUT!" how can she? when her forhead is tied to his fist? pychologicaly she is devastated and seeks refuge to the one who is giving her pain. yes very much so. it's scary how the mind works. like a dictator and his people. you would be surprised at how many are actually loyal to him. because even though he abuses them he provides them with a sense of stability or like wise. so back again to the tabooed shrink idea. a whole whrilpool. :(

i think if any change has to start it starts all together and starting within ourselves. there must be a reason why he started with hitting her. maybe he saw his dad hit his mom as a kid and that felt normal. maybe so many things.

i did let a few tears flow while reading.. it hurts so much to not be able to help. all i can do is wish and pray for her and all the abused in the arab world

April 13, 2007 at 8:53 AM  

Hi Eshda3wa..sorry been away from your blog for a while..i got sick, got the flu :(

I knew a girl who suffered the same consequence, her husband would lock her up at home from the time he left from work, until the time he came back..with no phone or internet what so ever! I cant believe people like this still exist..everytime i hear stories like that, makes me wanna become a better person when im married, because i cant see myself like that!

I dont know how the Psychology majors would analyze this case, but it might be the same as when a kidnapped person falls in love with their kidnapper after spending time with them

April 13, 2007 at 12:38 PM  

these kinds of stories make me so mad. you know who i'm mad at? sbeecha..

i;m sorry but the first time it's his fault.. the second time, it's hers.

any women who respects herself should know that as soon as this kind of thing happens, she should get the hell out.

i am my mother's daughter.

thanks for this great post. this is an important issue.

April 13, 2007 at 10:26 PM  

some women need to realize that being divorced is not the worst thing that could happen to them! ili ga3id i9eer to people like sibeecha shay i3awwir ilgalb:/

April 13, 2007 at 10:41 PM  

3zayez
her father was very humiliated when she ran away, and as he said, she want to go to hell with her own two feet, then let her burn
his pride is over shadowing his need to protect his daughter
it is sad..

sharm
im glad u do

captain obvious
your rite, but some people are too conserned about their image to think of anything else

ghasheema
ma geltay shay vent vent ya ba3ad 3mre
i dont get sebeecha, and marzoog is a ticking time bomb, its only a matter of time till he blows up
last time it was adamaged kideny
allah yaster min wats next

i wonder if she thinks its really worth it

do0da
so what now im ur insparation :pP
u know sometimes i wonder about the shelters too, cause sometimes the girls family will send her back to her husband so she wont "burden"them
its just our society just complicated things way too much especially for women
allah y3eenha

lilacs
the pscological factor just amazes me, to run away from a place where all u got was love n protection... i dont know wat her parents are planning on doing now
like i told 3zayez, her father is too humilated and is currently nursing his pride
ill keep u updated

hussain
dont even KID! im serious! not a jokeing matter!

omtanoo7
1-i think the perception is SLOWLY begining to change
2-sa7
3- 7mar oo mo rayal ba3ad
4- they tried she ran away
5- sa7 again

kj
u hit alot of issues.. i wonder why mothers play such a role in the marriage... 2 adults capable of making their own desisions, but noo the whole family has to be consulted
and i cant even begin to argue about the teen sex isuue, too much to say
needs a whole new post

hamza
dont think its gna work
if she tells him shes pregnant i doubt its gna change anything
and if she tells him she lost the baby hell probably blame her n beat her eve worse!

elaine-ess
sa7 ur rite, bs i think in the west they are alot more open minded, and when ppl hear that marzoog hits sebeecha they ask wat she did to provoke him, can u believe it? always blame the woman

April 13, 2007 at 11:16 PM  

transparently
i hope so too
and i think the perception is changeing
true its at a very slow rate but still changeing
i hate how our society is so forgiving of men..

enigma
madre how people always think marrage "fixes"things
hes a junkie but were hopeing a woman would change him
laish woman rehab center?!!
and ur rite ehya ma 3ndaha salfa

kella met2aker
ill have her contact u ASAP
and ur rite
elmafrooth kel ma mad eda 3alaiha a7ad yamsika oo ykafkha ohwa ba3ad!

nonowa
i wish sebeecha was as smart as u r!!
its sad to see how a woman can just succumb to wat she deems as her fate
and she refused help when help came to her!!

kella metakher
yes its a true story

premester
im sorry to say its not just a story i made up
its true
i cant even begin to understand wat goes on in their head

gloomy
i hope allah yhadeeh
oo yhadeeha and she has the strenghth to make the rite desision which is to leave the fool!

kinan
alrighty dr phil ;P
im sure she is delirious, but how delierious can u be to not register the physical pain u r in?
to actually run back o him?!!


missy
i had the same reaction u did
i wanted to go beat the hell out of sebeecha for being so stupid
bs i guess u never know wat goes on i in other ppls heads
akeed mo 9a7ya

April 13, 2007 at 11:32 PM  

I didn't read everything, but I'm with Dandoon.

April 13, 2007 at 11:47 PM  

esme7eelee .. 3ad hathee 9aj 7mara !!

and i'm with u .. stop violance against woman

April 14, 2007 at 12:02 AM  

happy wolf
ummm... i dont know wat im supposed to say

chikapapi
sebeecha is confused, and needs some sense knocked into her, and marzoog needs help!
cz he wont have any problem getting remarried and someone else is gna fall victime to his abuse!

solar alchemist
amen to that!!

reem
u hit the most important point why isnt there an organization or rehab center that deals with abuse?!
infact it should be a law, if a woman is battered oo eshtekat the husband should be forced to attend rehab or anger management or watever it is that fixes this problem
:**

arablady
refqan belqawareer
i think our generation perception of divorce and spinsters is definitly changed
so theres hope

Dyke
u finally said something that didnt shock or surprise me
i agree with u 100 percen
the change should start within us
just pray god gives sebeecha stranght to think rite and get the hell out

mohammed
ya hala oo ghala
hala bel 6ash welrash
salamt yal ghale salamaaat

law adre chan sawaitlik chicken soup and sent it by dhl

ur gna make a great husband one day
lucky is the girl who will marry u :*

snookie
both u n ur mom are smart
its hard to make sense of what sebeecha did
i hope her family will provide help both physically and mentally
oo aham shay mentally

dandoon
ee wallah shay y3awer elgalb

April 14, 2007 at 12:08 AM  

3baid
u should be :)

kuw_son
she is 7mara, shes also sick and in desperate need of psycological help!

we all want to stop violence, question is HOW?

April 14, 2007 at 12:10 AM  

sad..
i'd rather be labled as divorced, then be abused !!
actually.. i dont see anything wrong with being divorced..
i wish she gets her head straight and leaves him!

April 14, 2007 at 12:23 AM  

There are so many comments I don't think I can add anything at this point--
but I agree w/Dandoon. I'll also admit I have very little sympathy for women who are prepared to take this kind of abuse, especially when she has a set of parents who are willing to protect her.

It's just dumb. I'm not sure how women get to a point where they are so brainwashed and terrified of divorce that they can take physical abuse just to avoid it. For god's sake I know a number of girls who got divorced, remarried (or didn't) and their lives didn't end. W/this kind of beating I'm sure she'll end up losing her mind and maybe life.

April 14, 2007 at 1:30 AM  

You pay respect for your self before others.

She had no respect for her self; why would he respect her then?

April 14, 2007 at 9:05 AM  

من صجها هذي؟!!!

وبعدين ترا ماكو واحد طبيعي يطق مرته وجذي من غير سبب هالريال أكيد في شي :/

April 14, 2007 at 9:18 AM  

Wow. This story really gave me goosebumps. La 7awla wala guwata ila billa. I doubt it’s about image though, it doesn’t make sense. It would make sense if she didn’t have a supportive family but since she had to cover for him and not tell them he beat her then obviously her family is not the type that’s ok with their daughter being treated like that. I think that maybe she does love him but she’s embarrassed to tell her parents that she loves him after what he had done to her. God only knows. Since she went back to him, I really hope inna uhwa Alla yahdee gabil la yithba7ha. He needs help.

April 14, 2007 at 9:38 AM  

I came here cause I missed you, now am all like.. tesabbaht! is she for real?! shakhbary this mentality! such disgrace! aslan I don't blame men like that I blame women for showing their cards and letting them know what's their weakness and letting them take advantage of it all helplessly even thought she could so put an end to it in a way or another..

I wonder how she's doing now!

April 14, 2007 at 2:02 PM  

Ohhhh oohhhh amazing, does this Amnesty poster belong to the Kuwait Chapter, are they finally going under way with the program?

yes unfortunately, this is the mentality. I dunno how ppl think honestly, and the fact that she went back to him only makes him feel like what he does is justified because she's taking it.

ahh this topic makes my blood pressure zoom to the roof.

April 14, 2007 at 3:02 PM  

This is EXTREMELY sad, and very common to an extent. Divorce is not such a bad thing. It doesn't necessarily mean that the man is bad, or the woman. It just means they couldnt get along, and going in their seperate ways is an option and a right that they should be able to use without being judged. I really hope the perception of divorced woman wud change soon, and i hope ppl start to realize that they are human beings with pride and integraty and that they're not animals or slaves and NO ONE has the right to abuse them like that. Screw society and wat the ppl think, they shud respect themselves and their families by refusing to live such a miserable life! Who the hell does he think he is to be beating her up like that! It's ridiculous! I don't know shino throofha, and I don't wanna judge her or anyone in a similar situation, but honestly ilsharha moo 3alaih, ilsharha 3alaiha ili mit7amlita oo sakta!

April 14, 2007 at 3:58 PM  

That's why I stopped fighting for women's rights and switched to animal's rights!

Women are destroying women.

April 14, 2007 at 5:37 PM  

Ok sa7, the girl's confused o Marzoog needs to be burned bas he'll never change! fa the next woman who accepts him is stupid not a victim, she has to double check and ask about the guy before taking this big step, especially if he's divorced and Allah is here, Sabeecha need not worry n' have faith in God and Naseeb :)

April 14, 2007 at 5:57 PM  

peony
i wish she does too
ofcourse theres nothing wrong with being divorced
now tell that to society

lulu
thats what everyone is worried about, that he mite go off n kill her, and that is expected from a psyco
just pray for her and everyone in her situation

True faith
so true, and because she betrayed her father like that, marzoog feels empowered like he owns her

ra-1
he definitly needs psycological help
but how do we get him to go?

1001nights
its amazing how a person can still find love and affection in their hearts for someone that abused them like that
again i ask the question, where can you go for help in kuwait?
theres no law to force him to seek help, and that definitly needs to change

sponty onty
hey cousin, wallah i miss u 2
i dont thnk we can ever make sense of it, and its not even something like u have to be in the situation to completly understand, its a natural human instinct to run away from danger!
i have no idea hows shes doing, ill ask n ill tell u

cix
lil asaf NO it does not belong to kuwait
no such programmes exsist
there is nothing to help women get out of situations like this, they are left under the mercy of their families and their abuser, and some families just send their daughters back, we definitly need some kind of programme to aid these poor women

shoush
i think change bgins with us
its up to us to change societies perception of divorce
and just pray allah yfk sebeecha and those like her min el3elah ele ohma feeha

elijah
really?
i dont think u should give up just yet
sure there are stupid women aout there, but there are hundreds in need of someone to fite for them

chikapapi
she dug her own grave and she has to lie in it
which is what is happening
allah yhadeeha oo yhade marzoogo elkhebel

April 14, 2007 at 6:46 PM  

Oh if i was sBeecha marzooq would be one sad little chicken.

April 14, 2007 at 11:43 PM  

blue dress
inshallah u will never be in sebeechas position

April 15, 2007 at 12:29 AM  

law ana .. chan i practiced boxing on her face everyday :-)

April 15, 2007 at 1:14 PM  

financy
u would!!
hit her i mean!
WHY?!?!?

April 15, 2007 at 3:19 PM  

AWALAN LAISH MARZOOG!!!! Kharabtay ismy! 3aad I like my name! hehehe!

Sara7a that is really messed up and the problem is that our society places marraige so high on pedistal that if a women is divorced its as if she is damaged she damaged goods. Alah ekoon ib 3oon ahalha!

The problem is it is difficult to prove that the man is beating the women and there is no real punishment bil ikwait.

NOW CHANGE THE DAMN NAME!!!!!! ANA MA3ALAAAY!!!!!!! I had to find out like this!

April 15, 2007 at 4:36 PM  

Marzouq
lol
yeee
ok ok ill change it now!!

how did u find out anyway!

April 15, 2007 at 11:56 PM  

looool! Mit7at 3aad! hehehe! Well it still looks like I'm the one going around beating people! loool!

I got a couple of emails that I saw today laughing and when I saw I horrified!!!!! loooool! :)

April 16, 2007 at 12:17 AM  

Oh my goodness, I just wanted to add: I read this when you just posted it, right before I went to bed...and I had the worst nightmare in the world. La hawla wa la quwwata illah billah!

May Allah restore this girl's self-esteem, and she should one day walk out with her head held high.

[No need to welcome me, I am Digital Nomad :) ]

April 16, 2007 at 4:13 AM  

OMG!!!

So wat if she gets labeled as a divorced women.. No shame in it !!! Till when will be belittle divorced women!!!!!!!

April 16, 2007 at 12:39 PM  

Marzoog
ga3da afaker sha7e6 sha7e6, i dint want to use a common name, oo 6ala3 ma3ay met7at
bs theres a line thru ur name, no one thinks its u ;)

zahra
hey!
i can imagine, i saw the girl rite after she got out of the hospital, it wasnt a pretty site
allah y3eenha oo yhadeeha n she leaves the psyco

Mistuki
no theres no shame at all, but to a few conservative people, its a disgrace
i only hope he dosent paralyze her or kill her!
pray 4 her

April 16, 2007 at 4:20 PM  

That's truly devastating, is it just me or do you also think that this practise is mostly common in the middle east? I know that it also occurs in the east and some western countries, but don't you think that it's truly common in the middle east?

I just love women with all my heart!!!! And I do not consider any person who does such a horrible thing a "man", but a sexist back-minded coward who chooses to run any from his own problems and blaming it on an innocent lovely woman instead of facing them himself. I would like to see him beat up another man of his own size and see how he would like that.

And the Society complains why they aren't civilized, just makes me sick.

April 16, 2007 at 5:12 PM  

not a story? oh dear....

i do hope she knows what she is getting herself into and that she is ok.

April 16, 2007 at 7:18 PM  

really I know that's how people think of the middle east but.. these thougts are way over.. most people dont think like that in Q8 .. girls dont even put up with this s*** here I know some girls who left thier house because her hubby bushed her aside or even slap her once!!!

April 16, 2007 at 8:14 PM  

nael
im sure women love u with all their heart
there should be more men like u
ya its very common in the middle east, but i think its getting better
in places like india, a wonam could die if she got a divorce, a friend of mine was telling me that was a common practice in their village
sad

premester
i hope so too

bebe
good 4 them
even though its not common anymore, but it still exsists
the girls family dont think like that, cz they wanted their daughter to get divorced
bs ehya ma3a nafsha

April 17, 2007 at 12:37 PM  

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