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October 4, 2008

Whats The Protocol?




So I have a question
When i start work and make my own money
does that mean that my dad is not financially responsible for me anymore?

Ya3ni i get that im not gonna ask him for 20 kd cause im going out to dinner with my friends

but what about when we travel. Does he still give me spending money?

Its not like hes going to buy the family tickets and ask me to pay for my own, but do i still get to ask for shopping money?
and when i run out do i get to ask him for more
or is that like 3aib and i should aste7e 3ala waihi?

Just because i start work doesn't mean i stop being his daughter!

I cant support my own shoe fetish!


So is there like a guide line or something?
posted by eshda3wa at 12:00 AM

48 Comments:

7oby, it's up to you, I think it's more of a personal choice, some would think that I'm fully independent and responsible so I'll handle my financial and I'll manage with my own money <-- me!
but that doesn't mean you won't be his daughter any more

October 4, 2008 at 12:04 AM  

the best thing on earth is to get your financial freedom
its a very important part of your independence and freedom

thats how i see it .. unless u were spoiled :P


just passin by and liked your blogg .. good luck on your career

October 4, 2008 at 12:08 AM  

Well, for traveling the family ticket for sure he will not ask ^^ but for the shopping you should use your money if you need more you can ask him ^^ only if you need more and its important ^^

Everything will be fine you will know the drill soon and dont forget every family is different ^^ Some of them is 3aib and some is ok :)

October 4, 2008 at 12:11 AM  

i have no clue.. but if i was working and have my own money, i would be responsible of myself, and support myself by my own.. i guess its easy saying, when i start working i will let u know :P

October 4, 2008 at 12:12 AM  

when i started working I stopped asking for financial aid because I wanted to and because I am independent (my nature) and it made feel more responsible and I like it... he on the other hand, along with mom would give me gifts between now and then, or when they travel, or reward me for being their daughter... or give me some money (still he gives me 3eidiya hehehe) you know! What do you think?

October 4, 2008 at 12:14 AM  

LOOOOL yeah ana dashait my career life with the "ana 5ala9 muwathafa oo kil shay 3alay ana" and it wokred for a while. my first car was bought from my own money and now with my new car baba paid half miskeen. LOL. 3rd year, i utilised Daddy ATM for travelling purposes otherwise, la i was ok with daily everythings.

October 4, 2008 at 12:21 AM  

when the wings are strong enough .. you will fly on your own ...

October 4, 2008 at 12:21 AM  

I stopped asking for money to my mom since i was 14 and had responsible with my own money which dad used to give me allowance monthly then when I get into college I start to make money and I told him to stop giving me allowance but only when it comes to needy like if i finish all the money then theres something comes up that i must buy for project or dinner with friends I can still ask for money and there's nothing to ashame for but atsalaf mena bs mrat ma atsalaf:P its ok hes a dad but this time i felt embarrassing that I had to atsalaf,I must learn how to be independent more. and I think u should learn how to get independent sometimes.

October 4, 2008 at 12:22 AM  

loooool

aww, im sure he'll still spoil his little girl =P

October 4, 2008 at 12:46 AM  

protocol shmotocol! he'll still be funding my bag habit until i get married and he knows it:p

bas ya3ni i'll buy "basics" with my own money of course but stuff that'll cost more like say badlat sahra and stuff to wear 7ag engagements/milchat (not that i go to a lot!) and jewellery that i'll wear to these events (ie not every day jewellery) ohwa ili ibyidfa3 for them. and family holidays too. bas itha ana bazrig mokan with my friends or cousins or whatever for a weekend i guess i'll pay for those.

October 4, 2008 at 1:15 AM  

la i think u can bes ya3ni only for big things..atwaq3 the actual cutoff is when your married then you cant ask for anything..I THINK..

October 4, 2008 at 1:29 AM  

weddy asa3dch, bs ive been taking care of myself since i was 12 or so hehe

October 4, 2008 at 2:24 AM  

Theres no protocol really, depends on ur dad. Y3ni if ur broke u can still go to him....and im sure he'll give u money if ur travelling,i mean thats what dads do.

I personally will not stop asking for money when i need it ;> hehehe

October 4, 2008 at 3:36 AM  

سخافه

October 4, 2008 at 3:59 AM  

Lol, It depends on your parents, but I think parents in kuwait stop giving you money after you are married, and even then they give you some from time to time.

Maybe you shouldn't ask for it, but if they offer, take it! LOOL!

October 4, 2008 at 4:19 AM  

I think you can keep asking him for money when you run out :)

but I'm not sure about when you travel

October 4, 2008 at 6:08 AM  

lol OFCOURSE NOT! u still have the right to ask for anything u feel like getting.. thats how i see it!

October 4, 2008 at 7:04 AM  

el father ya9rif 3ala binta lain etezawaj ..7ata lo 3ndaha ma3ash ;p

in my case? am saving my ma3ash and didn't spend a fils, nawya ayami3 w ashtery as'hom enshAllah

October 4, 2008 at 7:31 AM  

lol walla I don't know.. I got married to early.. but I don't think he stops spending on you when you are still in your parents' house.. not married I mean.. so don't be shy and ask whatever you want, it's what daughters do ;)

October 4, 2008 at 9:48 AM  

Emmm there is no definite guideline, each family is different. Maybe you could discuss the matter with him.

October 4, 2008 at 11:06 AM  

My friends and cousins dont get money from their fathers, they even pay for their tickets and everything!
For me, dad pays for everythings as if I am still not working, a9lan he doesnt allow me to pay for anything :/
my freinds egolonly 3aib! LOL
:)

October 4, 2008 at 1:14 PM  

I would say, it's okay for "needs" but you should pay for your own "wants" :)

October 4, 2008 at 1:26 PM  

naaaah

u can ask for more money wen ever u wanted tooo ...

3ady :)

October 4, 2008 at 2:53 PM  

those questions are exactly the ones running through my head !
But in my case there's no dad around , just my beloved mom :)

October 4, 2008 at 3:18 PM  

The guide line is... take everything you can, from everyone, everywhere, anytime, any place. But really, my brother has been working for a while now, and he pays for everything himself except his food, though he sometimes takes money from my father when it's necessary, bottom line is: there is no guide for family, no lines and no borders, let the chips fall where they may.

October 4, 2008 at 4:04 PM  

I have no idea;\

October 4, 2008 at 4:54 PM  

fe ashya2 naturally your family will pay for ... "general family expenses" like food "machla"

o fe ashya2 you'll pay for ... personal stuff (cloths, accessories, mobiles, .. etc)

fe protocol bs per family .. o
lama tkonen awal wa7da tesht'3l (mthly :s) you will create the protocol for your family

October 4, 2008 at 9:39 PM  

shofai, ohwa ye3temid 3la ur relationship m3a oboch, for me oboi a9lan ohwa brou7a mara7 ya36inii!!

oo if i ask him, bqolli 3ndk m3ashek! ;P
(lil7een ma jarabt cuz lil7een ma t5arajt a9lan!, bs i can predict his answer mn al 7inn)

oo anyway, i guess girls 3adii, akther mn al shabab! ya3nii el bint dalo3at oboha, wla ana 3'l6an?

October 4, 2008 at 10:03 PM  

Speaking about myself, I have stopped taking money from my parents since I was in college!!

I don't dare to ask about it honestly!!

October 4, 2008 at 10:28 PM  

It depends. There is no guide for these things. Dad still pays for my medical bills only cuz I can't afford the priviledge that I've been raised in. Other than that I try to pay for my stuff.

I know sooner or later I'm gonna live like a homeless person but I'm enjoying what I have while I can.

I say use your money for necessity things and only ask for your parent's help if you reall really need it.

October 4, 2008 at 11:42 PM  

i think once u start work and earn GOOD money then no u cnt ask ur dad for money, but ya3ni if u need it then he should help

October 5, 2008 at 7:50 AM  

You are ladies .. a salary will never be enough for your monthly needs. So naturally if ur not married then your father HAS to pay for extra charges. Dont worry you are OK. And God help your future husband :P

October 5, 2008 at 1:45 PM  

i guess he'll give u some naturally.. bs chinna fashla u ask for more!

October 5, 2008 at 6:10 PM  

oi .. when is ur birthday :P? 3shan adzlich hadya:P

October 5, 2008 at 9:27 PM  

Hun your an independent person. If he gives u take it. If not stop this shoe nonesense;)

fyi. I have been finicially independent for the past three years..:P

October 6, 2008 at 1:59 AM  

oh and btw..He is ur dad. And ya3ni 3adi:P Mine never says no, yours wouldnt either..Just dont be over the top..Like demanding CD shoes..3abi:P

October 6, 2008 at 2:00 AM  

I wouldn't but it's up tp you...
And you know your dad best.

October 6, 2008 at 1:06 PM  

travel tickets go under "wants" I guess, while lets say "emergency medical procedure" goes under "needs"?

so if you still want your dad to pay for the big hefty "wants", like a new bag or plane ticket, I'd say you got your job simply as a hobby to pass your time after college?

if not, and you got your job to be self-reliant, then I'd say you can't ask your dad for "new bag money". coz that would defeat the whole purpose of getting the job.

o inti o oboch teytazoon :)

October 7, 2008 at 5:20 AM  

ee walla :)

October 7, 2008 at 8:30 AM  

im going through the same thing ur going through.. and i give u a peice of advice.. Dont ask for money!
mathlay falmay inich imfalsa .. ge66ay naqzaat.. saway roo7ich taksereen il kha6er bs dont say the actual words ;p

October 7, 2008 at 10:21 AM  

There is no clear line for this, depends on the family! I don't tend to ask, if I'm broke then I'm broke and nothing much to do about that!

When your traveling with family its something else, but if your traveling with friends or on your own then its tough to tell.. also depends if you are daddy's girl or not.. too many factors to just give you one answer.. time will tell! :)

October 7, 2008 at 1:46 PM  

As long as ur able to convince him supporting ur shoe fetish is a need not a want ur fine :P

October 7, 2008 at 2:44 PM  

mita u'll work?
soosti na6retich ;p

October 7, 2008 at 6:05 PM  

I get my allowance from my father since I was 13, and never exceed it. I am glad I don't have to worry about such a thing.

It is completely up to you. But your father would be offended if you stopped asking him for money. Just a tip, whenever he offers money don't say "No thanks" if you never did; it would break his heart.

October 7, 2008 at 6:53 PM  

Gotta love anonymous commenters, especially when they have constructive things to say... *rolls eyes*

October 9, 2008 at 11:56 AM  

The guideline is you buy what you can afford :P

October 9, 2008 at 1:41 PM  

its over. its all over, u're on your own now.

October 12, 2008 at 10:57 AM  

it's ok coz he'd want you to like save money, he will give u money to splurge untill ur:
1-strong enough financially and/or
2-when u get married

having said that, buying shoes with ur own hard earned money feels much better, using dad's money is feels mild u'll know it

October 25, 2008 at 3:21 AM  

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