November 5, 2008

Suckiest Situation Ever

I just had one of the most awkward conversations in my life.

Sitting with a couple of friends in the cool breeze enjoying a nice cup of tea

When X said: oh remember Medusa the divorced lady i told you about

Yeah i remember you telling us a miserable story on how her husband was a psycho who used to beat her up or something along those lines..

Well she met someone, says hes filthy rich, and he keeps buying her all those expensive gifts. From the god awful rags she was always in to ready to wear prada.

Is she in love with the guy or what exactly?

I dont know about love, but shes happy.

Akeed betkoon happy with all the prada shes buying

The thing is hes kind of married

Kind of?

Hes separated actually

You must have heard of him..

Who is he?

You know Peter Piper?

The name sounds familiar but i don't think i know him

He owns a magic pipe and has a house in one of them fancy places

You mean the place next to the place with the thing?

*eshda3wa chokes*





My head started throbbing, i felt sick, so i got up and did the only thing i could do just then. I went to the bathroom and threw up 3 days worth of food.

I feel so bad for the wife and kids
the man is a grandfather for crying out loud.

X says i should tell my friend.. but how excatly?

and what do i say .. hey umm i know i haven't spoken to u in ages, but i just wanted to let u know ur dad is cheating on your mom after nearly 30 years of marriage.. just thought you would like to know.. call me whenever ur in q8..

Its not easy! and do i really want to get involved?

7esbe allah wani3ma ilwakeel!

God i wish u guys can see medusa .. ugh..

I just dont know what to do ...

what do i do?

X says i should send my friend an anonymous email.. she says give the wife a chance to save her marriage.

Madre... madreeee.. i dont know if thats wise

*There's so much details left out, the wife doesn't know anything and X thinks she should be warned.. and I think ... I dont know what I think..

This is the suckiest situation ever!
posted by eshda3wa at 12:00 AM


Sending an anonymous email is an idea.
But, the most rational way I can think of, is to call someone she is close with and let her tell the girl. Another way is dont talk about it, because sometimes if the mother knows she might or actually, most likely ask for a divorce. Well, the rest is up to you ^^

November 5, 2008 at 12:22 AM  

i agree with not getting involved but i also think someone should tell her.

the anonymous email is a good idea.

November 5, 2008 at 12:53 AM  

It will be wrong to hide it ... just send an anonymouse mail or sms ... do the right thing !

November 5, 2008 at 12:53 AM  


wallah wallah bacher yegoloon inich intay il sebab... inhom were happy before you came into ur lives o ruined it for them!!!! This society memebers prefer ignorance over bitter truth ...

O do not worry about them. If your friend knows about it, then its no longer a secret and it will reach them eventually... let them deal with it on their own. Maybe its a midlife crisis or a fling or maybe even the wife does know about it but hiding it from her kids o nesban o chanayen...

By the way how can you have 3 days worth of food in ur stomach??? i thought food stayed there for hours only?

November 5, 2008 at 12:55 AM  

stay away ..... ladakhleen nafsich ib matahat .... am sorry i know if your friend finds out later on that her dad was cheating oo found out that you knew about it oo got pisset from it .... then you can explain ina what yimkin its a phase that your dad is going though oo yimkin if i did tell you it9eer moshkila oo ur parent get a divorce cause of me ..... if i was put in that situation i'd close my mouth

and if hes rich ;) black mail him call him up and say 3ami i know buy me stuff or i will talk :)

November 5, 2008 at 1:10 AM  

4 witnesses or laugh it off.

This is Kuwait, rumor capital of the world and they aren't necessarily always authentic.

November 5, 2008 at 1:36 AM  

You have no right what so ever to tell them.

You don't know the father's side, the wife could be a total bitch to him. If not, you don't know what kind of effect telling the girl would have on the family's unity and over all happiness.

Just don't.

It's not your place nor your right to do it thinking it's your moral obligation just to clear your own conscience.

Whatever makes him happy, and whatever keeps the family going.

One fake marriage is worth saving a family's unity instead of breaking it up just to let the wife know an inconvenient truth, ruining her grand family and decades of marriage.

Just don't, you don't know the whole story. You just heard gossip.

The truth is overrated, ignorance is bliss.

November 5, 2008 at 1:37 AM  

Stay out of it

November 5, 2008 at 1:38 AM  

let's say you got involved o then it turned out to be just a rumor...... now THAT would be the suckiest situation ever.

Stay out of it.

November 5, 2008 at 2:03 AM  

leave the old man alone its his life

besides its not 7aram he can marry 4 if he wants

November 5, 2008 at 2:20 AM  

la la la .. dont u ever get involved eb swalef chthi ;\
stay away as much as u can, o try not to get more details 3ashan ma y3awrech galbech ;\

November 5, 2008 at 2:33 AM  

do the right thing and stay out of it. 9adgeeni no matter how much ppl say they want their friends to tell them the truth, when they do tell them the truth they react badly.

Adry you want ur friend to know, bas kuwait is really small and there is a possibility that someone in the family knows. Fa wakhray nafsich min ay moshkila oo khaly a7ad greeb 3ala ur friend to tell them.

It is a really sucky situation!

November 5, 2008 at 3:17 AM  

send her an anonymous email but dont get invovled by urself!! be anonymous

u have to save the marriage big chance they might divorce when she finds out but remember she has to know!

November 5, 2008 at 3:43 AM  

omg! Thats horrible. Dont get invovled personally but do put the word across. Thats just omg!

November 5, 2008 at 6:36 AM  

Holly carp! I'd say don't get involved, but what if it becomes official that he's with the other lady, and your friend realizes that you knew but haven't told her, or maybe he's going through a midlife crisis and as soon as he realizes that he's making a mistake he'll leave madusa and the wife and kids won't know or suffer. madri, lets wait for nQ's comments on the subject.

November 5, 2008 at 7:44 AM  


ola tadreen ana shkether asmaa3 sowlef chethe?!! OLA OLA OLA wayed!!!

dont get involved kilsh! ma tadreeen sheno asbaabhom? o b3deeen ymkin his wife nows bas mo gayleen 7ag a7ad 3lshaan wala presteejha jedaam il naas!! ana a3ref wayed chethee!!! etkon il mara tadry rylha eykhonhaa o metzwej 3alyha ba3d bas tgola min il yom o ray7 a7na zojayn bas jedaam il nas, lek 7aytik o le 7ayaty.. mo m3qola eb tnfe9l after 30 years zawaaj!!

o tadreeen ba3d lash agolich stay away?

nafs il shay mara 9ar weyaaay, wela yoom a3rf the guy's name wela meno? rayel 3amity!!!! tkhylaaay! 6ab3aan 3ala 6ool geltlaha ;X

7adi ta7saaft ;X

she knew o tarjtny ma agol 7ag a7ad :X

November 5, 2008 at 8:33 AM  

I know you are really confused and all and it is a sucky situation, but do not get involved it will only make it worse whats happened is happened the wife and the kids do not need to know it will only ruin it for them believe me i know people who's husbands married other women over them and non of them stayed with their husbands after they new the truth, maybe peter piper is treating both women very well and if you say something it will make worse you never know so i say STAY AWAY!!!

I dont know how men do it but unfortunately stuff like that happen a lot

I am sorry you are put in this situation

November 5, 2008 at 8:56 AM  

Bluntly said, it's nobody's business.

An anonymous email/note is the worst idea.

Put yourself in the recipient's shoes.

If you were his daughter, or the wife's mother, then maybe you might intervene in a diplomatic way.

But it's not in your place to tell the daughter, his wife, or anyone else for that matter especially as you don't know what the situation is at home.

November 5, 2008 at 9:29 AM  

First you need to make sure that what you heard it is right and not just a rumor. Second, It depends if she is one of your close frieds or not..
But as an advice, I agree with whoever said dont get involved.. Better stay out of it.. No matter who it is, you still dont know the story behind it..

November 5, 2008 at 9:36 AM  

I agree 100% with SUSPIC..

I wanted to write you a reply to that meaning but Suspic said all what I have to say.

November 5, 2008 at 10:23 AM  

... forever keep your peace

November 5, 2008 at 10:32 AM  

I say do not get involved... ba3dain begoloon u had something to do with this oo tengeleb il salfa kilha 3ala rassich...

be careful eshda3wa i know that you wanna do the right thing bas il ppl ib hal ziman ma eqadroon!

November 5, 2008 at 1:51 PM  

i would advise you to take a few steps away from this situation and just let it be. not because i dont want ppl to do the 'right' thing, but think about this girl finding out in an anonymous email or what ever other way...if she has to hear this she should hear it from someone close to her.

since u seem not so close to her i would just forget the whole thing...

November 5, 2008 at 3:12 PM  

i think its best to leave it be..try to forget what you the end it could just be bullshit rumours.

November 5, 2008 at 5:03 PM  

shisalfa everyone bldeera 9ayer chithee?
remember my droplets story not too far ago?

madree =S
same dilemma =(

November 5, 2008 at 6:01 PM  

First and foremost, how ACCURATE is this information? Is it just mindless gossip or an actual fact?

To make the right decision in my point of view is to think of it this way, if you were in the wife's situation, would you want to know? and how would you want someone in your situation to act towards you?

Do onto others what you like done to yourself is my life moto...

No one can really tell you what to do. But if you do choose to tell then perhaps you should send it anonymously due to the nature of our community and current social culture.

November 5, 2008 at 6:13 PM  

abaaih shfeehum il ryayeel?!
yannaw ewg3idaw..

e5aloon 7areemhum illy ba3ath'hum 9ij eth'habah oo the go running into another woman's arms..

it's a very difficult situation ur in.. bs if u say that ur not that close oo u haven't talked to her in ages fa i think u shouldn't talk to her about it..

November 5, 2008 at 7:11 PM  

Dont get involved Sweetie,I know how it feels when you hear such news. Its devasting especially when you know the people.

Imagine the problems that will rise in that family when you tell them, what if the news isnt 100% true, news travels fast enough and am sure theyll find out on there own.

November 5, 2008 at 8:04 PM  

That really sucks!!
And if you write the anonymous mail, what would you say? All the details? ..
If the wife is happy, I'd leave things as they are, but if he's a jerk to her.. I'd send it anonymously 'cuz he doesn't deserve her!!

November 5, 2008 at 9:52 PM  

have to tell her some how ..

November 6, 2008 at 1:04 AM  

Wow, that's a horrible story! I'm sorry you were placed in such a position but I agree with most of the others. Don't get involved. 1) You don't know if it's true/rumor since you didn't witness it & 2) You don't know the situation in their home. The best thing to do would be to pretend you never heard it.

November 6, 2008 at 7:53 AM  

If your friend is near to you, I suggest you taking your friend out while already knowing that her dad and his mistress are out the same time!!

That will save you embarrassment!!

November 6, 2008 at 11:29 AM  

I'd say stay out of it.
You never changes as it moves from one person to the next...and like many have already mentioned...things could get ugly.

P.S. I love how you choose fictitious names instead of the real ones. :)

November 6, 2008 at 1:55 PM  

offff that is a very sucky situation :-S What are you gonna do about it?

November 6, 2008 at 2:46 PM  

madre hun this is bad, i say stay out of it lana madre its 5arab byoot. i dnt know get someone akbar minich involved. like ur mom, or something. u know? and hun itha 3ogob 30 years the assfuck is cheating on his wife with a skank theres no way for her to save her marriage. i dnt know

November 6, 2008 at 5:00 PM  

men and their mid-age crisis

November 6, 2008 at 5:06 PM  

ana agoool do not do anyhting and do not be a part of anything between that family 3ashan if something happens you're not the one to blame.

i've been through that situation and this is theb best you could do.

November 6, 2008 at 7:50 PM  

stay out of it babe!

November 6, 2008 at 11:59 PM  

You need to meet with your friend and tell her face to face in a gentle and loving way.But make sure that the rumor is correct first.The wife needs to find out like ASAP,if the fact is that her husband is having an affair.

I know this is a big sacrifice for you,but it is the right thing to do.The wife the daughter and the other children if they have them are going to suffer enough when they find out.If they find out later that people knew and were talking behind their backs,and did not tell them is like rubbing salt into the wound.

Remember to embrace your friend as you tell her and stroke your hand ever so gently on her shoulder,touch and loving embrace will help to cushioning the blow.

November 14, 2008 at 8:49 AM  

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